Hi Cait,

I have done exactly what you have and I manifested my ex leaving me for someone else - it's crazy that we have such power isn't it?

I was broken for a long time, absolutely shattered, I could not eat, sleep, I was in physical pain and my anxiety was crippling. Then I read somewhere(I did A LOT of reading on how to get him back) and it said that the reason why you feel anxiety or pain is because where you are is not where you desire to be. Basically, your reality is not what you want. BOOM. Total shift.

Right now, take a step back, forgive yourself and allow yourself to feel what you cant help but feel. You have manifested this experience to learn something from it and I promise when you realize that, it is like everything just clicks. Be grateful that you have had this breakup because WHEN you get back with your ex, you will be a completely new person, a new person who has a brand new relationship with your ex.

When negative thoughts and news pops up(we are human, they come up), just take it as a lesson that you are learning to let it go and let it out of your reality. Think the thought and say to yourself "now let it go". I would get into a panic if I had negative thoughts and that feeds them more energy than they are worth, so now I know how to let them pass without panicking and it is absolutely great.

Also know that the universe has INFINITE ways of bringing us our desires. For instance, you may think your ex dating this girl is the worst thing that could ever happen but it could be that the universe knows that being with her is actually going to make him realize how much he loves you and that no girl can compare to you, so when you get back together he will have NO doubts you are the one and any future girls he meets will be no threat because he will know for sure that you are the only one he wants.

Let the universe work its magic. All you need to do is focus on you. I know that is easier said than done but it is amazing when you get to doing it. Figure out what you love to do again, write a to do list of things you want to get done before the end of the year(skydiving, run a 5-mile, watch the sun rise etc.). It really makes you realize what it is you truly love and what brings you happiness. Make an intention to the universe that you will meet new friends and have new experiences and then enjoy every second of it. 

I know this might feel counter-intuitive because you feel you need to put all your energy into manifesting him back but right now, where you are, that could cause resistance. You know exactly what relationship you want with your love as well as the person who you want to be when you have it. So focus on the latter, focus on becoming that person, identify what you don't want to experience and change it. You say you dont want to be insecure, so practice self love until you know you know you are enough and no man would ever leave you. I love Agnes Vivarelli's videos,she really explains this so well.

You are amazing and enough and sometimes we invite these experiences into our reality to make us learn just how valuable and great we actually are. 

So, know that your ex is on his way back to you and in the meantime you have this time to focus on you - how great! Relish in it. Do all the things that make you feel the slightest bit of joy and find your fire and love again!

Lots of love!



 

DaniellaB wrote:

Hi Cait,

I have done exactly what you have and I manifested my ex leaving me for someone else - it's crazy that we have such power isn't it?

I was broken for a long time, absolutely shattered, I could not eat, sleep, I was in physical pain and my anxiety was crippling. Then I read somewhere(I did A LOT of reading on how to get him back) and it said that the reason why you feel anxiety or pain is because where you are is not where you desire to be. Basically, your reality is not what you want. BOOM. Total shift.

Right now, take a step back, forgive yourself and allow yourself to feel what you cant help but feel. You have manifested this experience to learn something from it and I promise when you realize that, it is like everything just clicks. Be grateful that you have had this breakup because WHEN you get back with your ex, you will be a completely new person, a new person who has a brand new relationship with your ex.

When negative thoughts and news pops up(we are human, they come up), just take it as a lesson that you are learning to let it go and let it out of your reality. Think the thought and say to yourself "now let it go". I would get into a panic if I had negative thoughts and that feeds them more energy than they are worth, so now I know how to let them pass without panicking and it is absolutely great.

Also know that the universe has INFINITE ways of bringing us our desires. For instance, you may think your ex dating this girl is the worst thing that could ever happen but it could be that the universe knows that being with her is actually going to make him realize how much he loves you and that no girl can compare to you, so when you get back together he will have NO doubts you are the one and any future girls he meets will be no threat because he will know for sure that you are the only one he wants.

Let the universe work its magic. All you need to do is focus on you. I know that is easier said than done but it is amazing when you get to doing it. Figure out what you love to do again, write a to do list of things you want to get done before the end of the year(skydiving, run a 5-mile, watch the sun rise etc.). It really makes you realize what it is you truly love and what brings you happiness. Make an intention to the universe that you will meet new friends and have new experiences and then enjoy every second of it. 

I know this might feel counter-intuitive because you feel you need to put all your energy into manifesting him back but right now, where you are, that could cause resistance. You know exactly what relationship you want with your love as well as the person who you want to be when you have it. So focus on the latter, focus on becoming that person, identify what you don't want to experience and change it. You say you dont want to be insecure, so practice self love until you know you know you are enough and no man would ever leave you. I love Agnes Vivarelli's videos,she really explains this so well.

You are amazing and enough and sometimes we invite these experiences into our reality to make us learn just how valuable and great we actually are. 

So, know that your ex is on his way back to you and in the meantime you have this time to focus on you - how great! Relish in it. Do all the things that make you feel the slightest bit of joy and find your fire and love again!

Lots of love!



 

 
Thank you,  Daniella and fizzy!  (shout)

Daniella, you're so right with everything you said. There was a lot that I thought I'd already worked on that clearly, I hadn't. Now, I have a chance to work on all of that! My ex won't even recognize me ;) And i might not even recognize myself.

Or maybe i will. When I was younger, I sometimes thought of how i wanted to be, but i never thought I could achieve it. Well: challenge accepted. 

I actually found Veronica and this board through Agnes! :D And, via her, I found Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It, which of course I read in one sitting: short and succinct and meaningful.

Right now I'm actually excited to be starting this journey! Thank you for your reply and all the support from the get go, Daniella; it really means a lot! ❤❤❤❤ Lots of love back to you!