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Don't know where to go from here...
I'm at a loss for words. The man I see myself marrying broke up with me. We had last minute plans with my friends and then his mom called me and said that his uncle's birthday was that same day. In the end my friend didn't feel like going to the uncles birthday so I asked my guy if it was okay if we just met up the next day. He responded with "I don't think we should see each other anymore, thanks for making this easy" he then blocked me, and unblocked me and called me throughout the night from his phone and others. I didn't pick up because I was devestated and upset. This morning I finally picked up hos phone call we met up and he said he was upset, felt like he couldn't trust me and last night changed his mind about me. We broke up last year and got back together in January. It has been the best relationship we have ever had and we have broken up two previous times before.
My questions are:
Is there hope for a brand new relationship void of these obvious commitment issues?
If I adore him and myself so much, how could this happen? I was completely blindsided.
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Re: Don't know where to go from here...
1. Yes there is.
2. I think contrast is inevitable. While it absolutely sucks at the time it occurs, I believe it's shows up because there is something that needs to be worked on. That something isn't always obvious, but the journey to finding out and fixing it is so rewarding and enlightening.
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Re: Don't know where to go from here...
We have just broken up three times now so I am worried about actually having a loving relationship with trust. I feel like he just made the decision for both of us while being upset. I am hopeful. Thank you for your response.
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Thread Starter- Havefaith91
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Re: Don't know where to go from here...
Thebestversionofme wrote:
We have just broken up three times now so I am worried about actually having a loving relationship with trust. I feel like he just made the decision for both of us while being upset. I am hopeful. Thank you for your response.
I have broken up with my guy more than that. Off and on for 3 years. I promise it doesn't matter how many times. The last 6 months of our 3 years was the absolute best when I kept putting Loa into play. You have to start to work on yourself. Be happy because you know that you can have whatever you desire. Don't let yourself worry about the trust. That will only bring it into your future relationship. Think of it as a fresh start. Both of you get space to work on yourselves.
I still have my guys pics on my wall. He is seeing someone else and I'm totally ok with that because I will not allow that energy into my reality. My reality is that we are together now and happier than ever before. Keep your head up and let go of the worries. Keep yourself busy so that you can truly enjoy life.
"You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You are the creator of your reality."
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Thanks for your kind words. I'm already starting to visualize and get my act together for me. I've noticed he has removed me from social media already. At first it stung but I know just as easily as I was deleted, I can be re-added and our relationship can be renewed.
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Thread Starter- Havefaith91
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Exactly! Imagine it already is!! Mine unblocked me but when he told me he was seeing someone else i blocked him. We weren't friends on social media anyway. I just didn't want to come across something that would kill my vibe.
"You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You are the creator of your reality."
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Re: Don't know where to go from here...
Hi,
I believe that when these things happen we need to take a step back. When they are fresh and we start going into visualising and affirmations we are actually beating the wrong drum because the Universe doesn't hear words it hears vibration. What can happen is that when two people get together after a break up they have some fears. Fear that the other will leave again or fear of anything that they hold within. For example, if you were afraid of trusting him then you have seen that reflected back by him saying he doesn't trust you.
Whatever we hold within us we see in our relationships which is why it's so importnat to practice our alignment as that will conquer all! There is no hurry to get him back immediately, work on yourself and find happiness. If you don't and you got back together you'd probably see a repeat pattern. Use this time to get rid of that pattern for good and find yourself. Don't do any affirmations or visualising for now until you are on steadier ground.
Much love,
Laura
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Re: Don't know where to go from here...
He obviously still loves and cares for you or he wouldn’t call! I think what needs to happen is that you need to focus on creating trust in the relationship and improving your communication patterns. He DOES care about you or he would have kept you blocked! Offer him some solutions for how you can create trust and understand each other better? If you need help with how to do this I offer coaching at veronicaisles.com, under Julie’s Coaching.
Blessings,
Julie
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Re: Don't know where to go from here...
Hi,
I believe that when these things happen we need to take a step back. When they are fresh and we start going into visualising and affirmations we are actually beating the wrong drum because the Universe doesn't hear words it hears vibration. What can happen is that when two people get together after a break up they have some fears. Fear that the other will leave again or fear of anything that they hold within. For example, if you were afraid of trusting him then you have seen that reflected back by him saying he doesn't trust you.
Whatever we hold within us we see in our relationships which is why it's so importnat to practice our alignment as that will conquer all! There is no hurry to get him back immediately, work on yourself and find happiness. If you don't and you got back together you'd probably see a repeat pattern. Use this time to get rid of that pattern for good and find yourself. Don't do any affirmations or visualising for now until you are on steadier ground.
Much love,
Laura
The Happiness Coach
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