I am in that same situation I chose to think of it as not an obstacle

I found out the guy I'd met in the summer and had a fling with was also seeing someone else.  I found out after I'd travelled back to his country to spend 2 weeks with him, I found out midway through the second week!  Needless to say things ended not too good that was beginning of October.

I realised the more I thought about her the more I would be pushing them together!  It was hard but I started to turn my thoughts around and stop thinking of her or if I did i'd confirm things to myself like, I am enough, I am beautiful, I am amazing, I am the only girl he wants etc etc.  I also done the Agnes Vivarelli rubbing out technique, not sure if it works or not but me and him started talking again and even had laughs, I let him know I was going back to his country for a short break at the beginning of this month and he asked if I wanted him to come see me.  He travelled on a bus after work my first night there and arrived late and we had a fantastic night and the next afternoon together.  When I asked if him and her were still together he replied with a meh type look on his face and made a noise which indicated not to me!  The week after I got home he changed his social media cover photo from him and her to just a random photo.  He's gone quiet on me now though, but I know he'll be back!

Sorry rambling on.....anyway what I would do if I was you and thoughts of reasons why he would stay with her came up, I'd turn them around and change them to thoughts of why he would be with you, what's amazing about you, what fantastic qualities do you have etc.  You are more than enough for him, you are a beautiful amazing wonderful girl! Take him off the pedestal and put yourself on it....you deserve to be on it

daisychain wrote:

I found out the guy I'd met in the summer and had a fling with was also seeing someone else.  I found out after I'd travelled back to his country to spend 2 weeks with him, I found out midway through the second week!  Needless to say things ended not too good that was beginning of October.

I realised the more I thought about her the more I would be pushing them together!  It was hard but I started to turn my thoughts around and stop thinking of her or if I did i'd confirm things to myself like, I am enough, I am beautiful, I am amazing, I am the only girl he wants etc etc.  I also done the Agnes Vivarelli rubbing out technique, not sure if it works or not but me and him started talking again and even had laughs, I let him know I was going back to his country for a short break at the beginning of this month and he asked if I wanted him to come see me.  He travelled on a bus after work my first night there and arrived late and we had a fantastic night and the next afternoon together.  When I asked if him and her were still together he replied with a meh type look on his face and made a noise which indicated not to me!  The week after I got home he changed his social media cover photo from him and her to just a random photo.  He's gone quiet on me now though, but I know he'll be back!

Sorry rambling on.....anyway what I would do if I was you and thoughts of reasons why he would stay with her came up, I'd turn them around and change them to thoughts of why he would be with you, what's amazing about you, what fantastic qualities do you have etc.  You are more than enough for him, you are a beautiful amazing wonderful girl! Take him off the pedestal and put yourself on it....you deserve to be on it

Love that last paragraph!!