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Back in February I was left by a guy I had very strong feelings for. It took a few months for me to get over it and forgive him. I think of him often and sometimes day dream about what it'd be like for him to come back, and give us another shot. Well, today, eight months later, I got a text from him. Around midnight tonight he messaged me hello. I was very surprised. I didn't think I'd hear from him again, especially since he had been dating someone else. I'm assuming that they are not together anymore. I was really happy to hear from him since I've been thinking about it over the past few months. It feels good to know that he has been/is thinking about me.
The problem is that he has not said anything else. When I first got his text, I didn't know who it was, and I asked him who it was because I had lost my contacts when I switched phones a few months ago. After looking at the phone number for a while, I realized it was him. I think he may have been offended by me asking who it was. Now I'm worrying. He has always held back a bit, he is a pretty quiet guy, and I'm afraid that I ruined our chance to talk again.
I know that I attract everything and somehow I attracted that text. I'm not sure how though, especially since just yesterday I was talking to a friend about how my self esteem was squashed when he left me. Of all days, why today? I wasn't very positive today. I don't understand.
How do I get past the roadblock of not knowing how I attracted this and how I can attract more from him? I feel like I always get things when I'm least expecting it, so how do I purposely attract what I want? It's been eight months I've been thinking about him, and now I hear from him, but it's only a hello and nothing else.
I'm feeling frustrated. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
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I doubt you have offended him because you explained to him that you had lost your contacts and it's also been eight months since you have heard from him, so please don't worry about offending him. Let him make the next move.
Hello is a positive sign and feel good about that positive. You manifested that message and will get more. Feel good and keep imagining loving scenes with him. There is some great advice on other threads on this forum. I recommend Manifesting Love by Elizabeth Daniels if you have not read it, it's aimed for attracting an Ex back. It's a feel good book and one of my favourites.h
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Thank you, Cheer. I think my problem is actually applying the methods. I understand them in my head but my emotions still overrun me, and it's hard for me to turn around. Does it just take practice?
Another thing is like I mentioned before, I always seem to manifest things after I've stopped thinking about it. I don't think I've ever intentionally manifested something by visualizing or anything like that. But I'm not sure. His text came out of the blue, I didn't do much to make that happen. So my confusion lies with what is really making my manifestions happen.
Veronica has said many times that manifestation takes time and there's a lot going on outside of our knowledge, things happening behind the scenes in order to make our manifestations happen. But eight months to manifest one text? Obviously I'm not doing this very well. I don't know why I'm being so negative about it. I guess it's just a matter of overcoming all the limiting beliefs in my head that tell me I can't do this.
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Sometimes we do not always need to know why things manifest in our lives, they just do. We do know we are attracting everything and if this person has been on your mind for some time, it is not too crazy that he messaged you.
Since you mentioned your self esteem was shot when he left you, it is very important to not give your power away to him again this time around. Feel how powerful, sexy and amazing you are. Know that of course he is going to message you again, why wouldn't he? You are an amazing person with infinite worth. No one can take your self esteem away unless you give it away.
The fact that you didnt know it was him has not ruined your chances of contact at all. Think of everything as helping your chances of success. Cultivate feelings of love, joy, kindess, happiness and love and send them his way. He will feel these energies and he will contact you! This is a test for you to respond differently than last time, and you can do this!
Blessings,
Julie- Love and Happiness Coach
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I have manifested things after I've stopped thinking about them too, when I have not been trying so hard and feeling relaxed. The thoughts were always there on and off about it and I beleive that it happened because it had been previously on my mind a lot.
DreamWalker wrote:
Another thing is like I mentioned before, I always seem to manifest things after I've stopped thinking about it. I don't think I've ever intentionally manifested something by visualizing or anything like that. But I'm not sure. His text came out of the blue, I didn't do much to make that happen. So my confusion lies with what is really making my manifestions happen.
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Julie - Thanks so much for your positive message! It really put a smile on my face. You are so right, I have to be confident in who I am.
I'm going to stop focusing so much on the why and how and just him in general, and switch the focus to me. I definitely need to work on my self esteem and that's what should be my first priority. Everything else will follow.
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I have manifested things after I've stopped thinking about them too, when I have not been trying so hard and feeling relaxed. The thoughts were always there on and off about it and I beleive that it happened because it had been previously on my mind a lot.
That's a good point! The few months after our breakup I was thinking about him a lot but in a negative way. After a while I started moving on and forgiving him, and began to think about him in a positive way instead. So it's entirely possible that it only took a month or two for this text to manifest after I started thinking positively.
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Things can only manifest when you are not resisting them. And you resist things by holding a vibration that is opposite to what you want. So when you all have walked away and relaxed and loosened up your grip on your manifestation, what you've actually done is raised your vibration and released resistance. And the MOMENT you do it, BAM, in comes your stuff! It's about trusting the process, loving yourself, and believing that everything works out if you just make the effort to get happy! If you are trying to manifest something and it's been AGES in coming and your thoughts are all rosy and positive? THEY ARE NOT! 😊 If you dig around a little, you will be sure to find some fear, some disappointment, some anger.. Or at least too much of noticing that your stuff is MISSING! Once you know what your desire is, you only do processes to raise your vibe. So you do them if they FEEL GREAT. Otherwise, you go off and find anything at all that does feel good. And you just hold your vibration steady in a state of positivity and KNOWING that your desire is well and truly on its way.
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Things can only manifest when you are not resisting them. And you resist things by holding a vibration that is opposite to what you want. So when you all have walked away and relaxed and loosened up your grip on your manifestation, what you've actually done is raised your vibration and released resistance. And the MOMENT you do it, BAM, in comes your stuff! It's about trusting the process, loving yourself, and believing that everything works out if you just make the effort to get happy! If you are trying to manifest something and it's been AGES in coming and your thoughts are all rosy and positive? THEY ARE NOT! 😊 If you dig around a little, you will be sure to find some fear, some disappointment, some anger.. Or at least too much of noticing that your stuff is MISSING! Once you know what your desire is, you only do processes to raise your vibe. So you do them if they FEEL GREAT. Otherwise, you go off and find anything at all that does feel good. And you just hold your vibration steady in a state of positivity and KNOWING that your desire is well and truly on its way.
I know that I held onto some resentment for a while but over the past couple months I have truly felt nothing but good things towards him. However, I have done a lot of thinking about how he's not here yet, or wondering how he'd come or what'd he say. Especially now that I finally got a text from him. I mean I was really excited to get it but since it was just a "hello" I'm like.. that's it.. why didn't he say more.. if he waited eight months to say hello, why the heck would he message me again anytime soon? It's so hard not to wonder things like that but I know it's doing no good.
I think the only way I'm going to move forward is to try and forget about it. Not give up but just push him out of my mind. After all we haven't spoken in so long, it's not like I need him in my life. Yesterday I was so positive, like SO positive. I felt so confident because he messaged me and I visualized before bed and it felt so good, and today is like I'm in a whole new mindset. Questioning myself, questioning him, questioning everything.
You're so positive all the time Cherished. I admire that so much. My problem doesn't seem to be raising my vibration but keeping it high. I also think that I raise my vibration and expect things to happen because of it too, and that's not the right way to go about it. I have a lot I need to overcome.