Cherished:

- always there for people
- tries to help as good as she can
- answers every PM eventhough she has a life on her own, children and so forth
- every post and reply of her is a enrichment for the forum
- many people here (me included) love her and want to read more of her
- have had incredible patience with RR in my opinion
- lifts the vibe of the forum up
- has so much to give and don't get anything in return


RollingRock33:

- takes no advice from anybody, but still asks the same questions again and again
- doesn't seem to be capable to learn
- is not willing to do the work
- is ungrateful (he ignored most of my posts)
- reacts rude IF he react to a post
- brings the vibe of the forum down
- has nothing to give but expects people to give the advice that he wants to hear
- thinks that it is somehow normal that people sacrifice all their free time to help him
- comes across dislikable as hell


Cherished, I don't think that I'm only speaking for me but we want you here, we love you, you give us so much and you do a great job. I had the feeling that the tone of your messages changed slightly in the last time but seriously, everyone of us has times in their lifes in which it is harder to be always 100% nice to people and you still helped every person who needed your help. And in the  case of RR, he shouldn't wonder about people being not soo nice to him anymore. It really surprised me every time he started a new post that there were still people who replied. And guys, I can really understand why someone is rude to RR. I had to hold myself back to not kill him. He really annoys me and sometimes I would love to retch him just a little...lol. Lemon is my witness of this.
If one of the two has to leave the forum I personally think that removing RR would be the far better option.

And one last point: This is an LoA forum. So we shouldn't try to fix problems through changing circumstances, right? I and many others have experienced Cherished as really lovely person. So maybe, just maybe is something with RR's vibration going on that attracts experiencing Cherished as rude. But that's nearly impossible because you all know how confident and so on he is.  Maybe it would help to add to the forum rules that irony isn't allowed here?

I am slightly new to the forum, but I got my mind stuck once and PMed Cherished. She replied me on the SAME DAY which just totally eased my mind and so my confusions were all cleared up. Confidence booosted up instantly. I also keep her posts to my clipboard and read them from time to time to get myself stay in alignment. I cannot feel anything but pure appreciation to Cherished! 

Cherished, you’re doing an incredible job. I can’t thank you enough for the help and advice you’ve given me. You’ve been nothing but kind and understanding. You definitely keep the positivity going on this forum. What’s best is that you genuinely want all of us to succeed. You don’t have to take time out of your day to guide anyone but you do. Will always be grateful for you.

As for RR, I’m not going to drag you down. You’re already ten feet below and still falling. If you can read every single post you’ve ever made, responses included, and still think you’re not draining, then I don’t know what to say. The way you lashed out yesterday was so unnecessary. You need help far beyond what this forum, Cherished, or LOA can provide. Might be time to seek a professional. There’s far more important issues to concern yourself with than your ex. For you to admit that you wouldn’t even date yourself right now says a lot.

Honestly, Cherished, you should get a medal for being as patient as you are. Thanks again for all that you do.

Last edited by camber (6/18/2016 4:45 am)

Sam wrote:

I think RR should be the new moderator.

Totes agree.

Then he can answer all our questions

Sam wrote:

I think RR should be the new moderator.

Definitely Sam. He knows it all. I especially love his ability to listen to advice and let it soak in. He is indeed a true  guru of loa