Hi Anna, I would firstly cut the communication as much as possible and definitely didnt initiate contact unless its important and let him to start all the communication. At the same time I would give myself some time to completely focus on myself only and not him, to get the strength and confidence again. As confident woman is very attractive to any man. Then when you feel really stronger and more confident, only then I would send the intention and write down how I want our new relationship to be, write a new script, in detail, how he treats you, how you feel with him in this new relationship (actually you can set the intention and write the script of your new relationship even now) then I would start with visualizing  the end result (after I got proper inner self-confidence). And then while visualizing I would still concentrate on my inner confidence and at the same time lived as if the wish was fulfilled. How would you behave if he was begging you to be back with him? that is the wish fulfilled.

The thing is he is now pulling away and it will be hurting you till you get the inner strength and faith that you will be back together anyway. And that takes a bit time usually, that is why the selfconfidence is so important. If he is pulling away, focus on you and you only, then you can do a bit of push and pull, once he start to contact you. I would definitely stop all the physical contact with him till he really wants you.

But that is only my way of looking at things.

I am sure you will turn it around very soon :-)

my pleasure :-) I know exactly how you feel :-)i

it took me some time to get where I am but lately I feel very confident not only in myself but in the fact that my guy loves me so much that he will be back soon, trying so hard to be with me that I am not worried about it anymore. today I wanted to visualize my future abundant life, full of travelling and my business at the top, suddenly my guy popped in and he was already with me in a restaurant and trying really really hard to pamper me so i am happy only with him and I stay with him, I dont know how it got into my mind but it felt great

what I started to do, not only about him but mainly about my business is the mirror technique and I really recommend it to you

stand in front of the mirror and look deeply into your eyes then tell yourself either you are or I am, I do both

so say you are an amazing woman, you are joyful and loving, men just love being with you, you are stunning, you you, yes you, you are one of a kind, you are very special woman, look at those beautiful long hair, wow and the lovely eyes, they are so deep and beautiful :-) or combine with i am in a loving happy relationship with my husband, he cant get enough of me, of course he cant get enough of me, I am just so pretty .... play with it so it feels good and soon you will feel as your vibration rises

I also put on make up, do my hair and put nice dress, I actually started to wear dress more often

as I keep telling myself ok so how would happily married woman look and feel? that woman whose husband is crazily in love with her because she is so hot and smart

and also I do it with my business so how would this successful entrepreneur looked, felt, would she wear jeans all the time? no, she would wear dress more often, she would look here best, look at this amazing successful entrepreneur, ....

you get the picture

as I have worked on my self-estame for long now, its not that difficult to do that, so you will see how that feels, but in case you feel wierd, just keep doing that anyway, its really great exercise

its recommended to say it out loud, but I just whisper, loud whispering, I dont want my neighbors to think I am crazy, maybe I shouldnt care but I just feel more comfortable like that

but I make sure I look into my eyes, then really look at my hair, bottom and all the parts I think are really sexy, I look into my eyes and see the beautiful eyes, etc.
its fun and I do it morning before I go to my clients or before any meeting, then when I come back and sometimes even during the day, even in the bathroom in a café, only if there is the mirror in the cabin :-)

but I feel huge difference when I do that so try

and listen to this book: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SoODZ7tEN5Q

also come to this web often and read the inspiring stories to believe that your situation is not special but can be healed easily as the other cases

I think the common mistake people do is creating their situation so special and different that their case cant be healed

but it is only in our head, my life is from Asia, lives in USA and I live in Europe, for long time I saw that as a big issue, now I dont care, I know that is not a problem at all as the Universe can create miracles and bring us together, only if I believe

Adam, everyone, i thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time to reply. I understand most of you have been through similar situations and you can feel that right now my psychology is so down because we used to be just fine with each other, and this coldness from him makes my feet and heart numb... 1 week no contact, and still he didint initiate any contact, i just did twice due to situation for the kids. Last time i was typical, smiling and thinking inside i know you love me and you know it too as i was looking at him and speaking other stuff. At the end of the talk and as i was about to go, he stooped to me and kissed me. I held his hand telling him lets forget the bad past days, i want us calm with eachother. He agreed and i left. then still 4 days not a call from him, and the second time i initiated contact is to wish him happy birthday, where he responded full of joy and thankfully, but that was it. No invitation, no nothing. Just like he would respond to a friend. I definitely do not want to be in the friend zone, or make him feel comfortable with my smile like i accepted the new situation. I try to visualize that he misses me but still when days pass and pass and he moves on i get disappointed and return to stage 1.
Plus the difficulty of my situation is that i come from a different town, so when we married i moved to his town. Right now i dont have many friends to keep my mind busy from desperation, cause of all the common friends we have. I am practically alone. I had even started imaginign and beleiving i would return to our home, so i planned our furniture in my mind, prepared myself for the next trip, imagined our families smile for the reuniting.... all of that.... Suddently all changed....he does not even call, when some weeks ago he was inviting me day after day and i felt he missed me.....

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Dear all, I did it again. I saw him , I did all the mistakes I shouldn't, begged him to hold me in his arms, give our family another chance. He was cold as ice, said he didn't hate me, he feels nothing. That indifference is worse than any hate. Told me to accept it, deal with it, don't beg, I don't want to feel sorry for you,you came here not for my bday but to convince me, leave etc I can't sleep, eat, smile, I need strength to empty my mind I love him, I miss our happy times which he so coldly throws away. How can I reverse this? I feel so devastated!!

I am grateful for all of you lovely people, with your help. I reached a point Where I feel so worthless. I love you people without knowing you, maybe we must know pain to appreciate other precious things. Lets see if I can bring the light from within outside.