TurtlePower wrote:

Congratulations!

I feel like I am forcing myself to focus on myself and improving myself so it feels like a chore more than anything. Did you also struggle through that or was it more natural for you?

So sorry, I realised I didn't reply to this message.
For me at first I was like you, forcing myself.
But then I realise the more I tried to force myself into improving myself just to attract my man I realised I had my mindset all backwards. So Instead I gave myself time to grieve. I gave myself time to accept what had happened and let go. I forgave him and I forgave myself.
After I turned around and told myself to stop being so stupid and to get back to where I was for me. Everything else can come later. After I only thought about our good memories. I only remembered the times we were out having fun and enjoying the moments. Once I could live without him he came back again. 

Don't get me wrong, I sound strong but I have my off days too. But just make sure with that one off day you get yourself back up after

Lj wrote:

Love this story.
​I've been having trouble keeping my chin up, coz logically it's not going to work. It's really hard to let go of the logic, when it's been your companion all life. But I try.
​I read books, websites, forums, listen to subliminals, visualize, RS, Doing affirmations etc.
​My first succes I think came today. This Friday I bought a lottery ticket and asked to win. Big or small, didn't matter. So today I got an email that I've won. The price was smaller than the cost of the ticket. But I like to think that this was my manifestation. I asked for big or small.
​I really would like to get my ex gf back, but it's hard to keep focus off her having a new bf a month after we split up.
​But I really believe that we will reunite a some point. I keep telling my self it's already happen. I picture us having this great relationship and having the baby we talked about for almost a year.
​But at the same time I'm scared she will get this baby with her new bf. And I can feel that's holding me back and having trouble of letting go.

You know I understand your troubles because every now and then I feel the same. But then I just think to myself, I'm good enough. I respect myself enough. If they can't see that then screw them. I believe me and my man can have an amazing relationship but if he won't fulfil me I will leave. Only then do I feel he realises my worth. Just keep your chin up and be confident. After a while you won't even need to read or look at this forum anymore. For me I've gotten to the point where I'm done chasing my man. I know he has feelings for me but he probably won't see this till I've physically told him and then physically walked out of his life. After I'm trusting the Universe to bring us together when he's matured, if not I'll find someone on my level  

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zionthecomedian wrote:

So at 1.58am this morning he finally cracked and messaged me.
I am beyond excited! He said: ''Hey it's me. You came across my mind and I wanted to check how everything was going. I guess I'm coming to realise now that I don't want to lose you as a friend.''
Well tables have turned! He's also unblocked me on facebook.

I'd like to point out this was a guy who was 100% sure he didn't want anything to do with me anymore. I still work with my boss who gave him a death threat on the day we ended things. This was someone who wasn't willing to 'risk' his life to be my friend let alone boyfriend.

So Ladies and Gents. Let me tell you. Never give up. If you subconsciously reach out to them, sooner or later they will reach out to you! The amount of times I nearly broke non-contact. As soon as you realise and appreciate everything around you things will fall into place one by one and you will get a new high. Even after receiving the manifestations enjoy them, thank the Universe and continue being positive and being happy. Never and I mean never put anything else before your own happiness and make the same mistakes as before! 

My man is slowly coming back and my reality is finally catching up once I let go of every doubt and worry I had. If I can do it. You can do the same people!! But like I said continue to love yourself and everything around you and things really do happen. 

I'd have thought I wrote this . It sounds like me . Your story gives me hope and now I can go on . It doesn't feel like it is happening, but I know it is . Congratulations to you and thank you

What do you mean when you say subconsciously reach out to them ?

So what I learnt from reading one of these books was I imagine him standing slightly far from me. I call him over using my heart and mind. I start to talk to him and imagine him speaking the things I want to hear from him b

honeebee wrote:

I loved your story and it makes me so happy to read other peoples successes. I am struggling with the no contact thing and think if I could go 2 months that would be awesome. Do you or anyone else have any suggestions on how I can achieve this?

Your story just made my day as I am in a slump.
Thank you 

He blocked me on every social media possible except whatsapp so it was kinda easier to forget since I couldn't exact check up on him. He was on my whatsapp, so I deleted our chat and archived it. In the end I was still checking what times he was online and stuff so in the end I sent his number to my friend and asked her to keep hold. I deleted him off my phone too. So in a way I 100% stopped myself from being able to contact him. After I made peace with myself and the past. I let it go and envisioned us making up. Then one night, he unblocked me and messaged me out of the blues. It was kinda of shock knowing he still missed me. I couldn't sleep all night. It was crazy.
Since then I guess I've kinda just left it. I'm happy he's back in my life but I'm also happy alone

Congratulations little lady!! :D xxx