I really loved this...you get what you are. My ex was draining and I became drained. I put alot of work in convincing him I was worth it, but he feel out of love when we had our kid. I absolutely was draining as well. He was negatively draining and I drained him by not being what he wanted/ needed and drained my bank account too.

I am however so much stronger since our break up, but unaware of what i wanna do with my life without him because it was all about him.

Our kid is amazing and I figured she has to have a dad...

But after reading this...do I want my ex or a soul mate...hell yeah a soul mate and an awesome daddy figure who wants to be a daddy for our kid.


You may have changed the game here! Emotions aside..what's logical, wanting and needing peace and happiness.

Thanks you so much. I think I had some rethinking to do

lovekinjal wrote:

It is hard that a person cannot have any emotion towards you. Being a human, emotions are bound to be there. It might be either love or hate. I do not know how can you NOT have any emotion toward someone. It might be that one of the emotion might overpower the other and therefore, the person is confused about his emotion towards you. So I upright reject the theory that a person CANNOT have any emotion towards you.

​Now lets analyse your situation in a positive way. He stared you down, which means he might have some feelings for you. But he did not speak which means he might be struggling with the thought of how to talk to you. He might be feeling worried whether you will accept him or not?

​Secondly, he has not blocked you. That might mean that he does not want you to be out of his life altogether. He wants you to stay. But might be he is ashamed of taking the first step.

​I gave you two positive aspects of your event. I hope this will help

Well the block was lifted from my understanding...we have a kid. I didn't event know I was blocked until a month ago since I equally needed my space.

He is normally someone who makes sure others feel uncomfortable in his presence when he doesn't like them. I've seen it done on plenty occasions.
I guess this is different because he was totally eye raping me.

I sent him a Valentine's day text with a picture of our kid...he did not reply what so ever...sent a birthday card and no reply. Oh boy oh boy!

I heard somewhere that if your ex has nothing left for you ...love or hate...you're in bad shape.

I'm not blocked...we have spoken only to do his other daughtes hair and once to vent about his ex wife. But other than that he doesn't talk to me AND we have a kid.

Last date saw him, yes he stared me down but barely spoke. I don't think he hates me...I think he thinks I'm invisible. It bothers me. No matter how I find peace in my choices and dig into this LOA i notice we don't argue but we have nothing. It's been  9 months since the break and 5 of barely speak.

Any suggestions?

My kids father and I used to argue every conversation. But more recently we just don't speak. He is doing better for his life and slowly trying to provide for our kid. I know LOA works. Just this past month he has called me to vent about his ex wife and ask me to do his other daughtes hair. For his birthday I sent him a card from our kid with movie tickets and a gift card hoping he would consider taking our daughter. Unfortunately no avail. And still no conversation truly for me. I wonder if you have advice here. I visualized a relationship even with a faceless man trying to just get that feeling I want. However...the face I always see is his. I want him to kick it up in the daddy department...but I'd love a husband out of him and our friendship back

So it's been a year since I looked up this LOA stuff. I found Veronica and gave it a shot immediately anything I felt I git back in return. Even my ex. But it wasn't always roses and sunshine. When I couldn't let him go to grow...I got back a bitter mean guy. I lost my mind trying LOA. And the Veronica suggested... STOP!

When I took bite size pieces of what I actually wanted for my life I got back bite size pieces of things that I visualized. For instance a new job paying way more that my education dictates, my kid goes to school until she is 3 for Free, despite my credit a new car and my hair is growing and I no longer feel worthless.

As for my ex, daughter's father, future best friend...he has never uttered he loves or misses me. He barely paid child support or spends and time with our kid. And even still I don't hate him. I found the love in knowing this is the best he can do and the universe/God is still blessing us.

Then it happened. He called...after months of silence or ugly arguments he called to vent about his ex wife. I was so annoyed but I recalled Veronica's words and offered him generic advice out of love and even apologized for our break up and errors. I did not hear an apology in return but something greater happened...I was no longer bogged by Hilton, sadness, or fear because I simply knew that the universe wants me and my kid to have so much more abundance in our live. Some he simply may not be part of.

Then just yesterday, I went to visit with his mom and older daughter...he was there...he looked so hit. And even keep looking  at me like I was a hottie MC hot pants...we smiled..but guess what... No conversation. I went outside and noticed he got a new car. He has never gotten a car. I over heard his father telling him...she is a good luck charm. He laughed but I consider myself that too. My point here is apparently...LOA falls in others laps too. Offering them the emotions helps them focus on their issues instead of negativity ruining there gif