Thank goodness for this forum to get us thru rough spots.

Yes total sense. I did the month of no contact..then broke contact but left it very surface.  He was very responsive.  Pleasant.  Still..i know that if I'm the one always reaching out first then I'm not really following the nc rule...im not texting out of desperation or a place of despair though.  I'm not going to reach out anymore and we shall see what happens.  We are just in a good place and I want to keep that momentum going...tbis is where my confusion is.

Makes total sense...thank you.  Another thing I'm concerned about is that we have some contact now...like an ongoing text conversation...however I feel he doesn't get chatty unless I reach out first..so am I breaking the no contact rule?  Not sure....we had a month of no communication..now we text occasionally...not sure what to do at this point except be positive and happy....

Congratulations

carpe Diem I loved your post and needed that reminder!!  We need to take care of ourselves and love ourselves, thats not being selfish..that just makes us better when we choose to love someone else!!  for a long time I didn't do that and now that I am I feel like  new person.  I still haven't manifested my ex coming back but I feel better about myself so when it does happen I'll be a WHOLE person and not the half person i was when I was with him.   Thank you for your encouraging words.....off to take a long walk at the park now....part of something that i do for ME and me only.