Cynthia wrote:

oceanitrogen wrote:

fizzy wrote:

Well, this is impossible because you are manifesting every single second of your life. There isn’t anything that happens to you that isn’t something you’ve manifested. You manifested the break up. You are currently manifesting the situation you’re in. Nobody else. As soon as you accept this, you’ll start realizing for real how powerful you are.

Also, most “LOA” teachers are only using watered down versions of Neville Goddard’s teachings. I’m not sure why you feel you need Veronica or anyone else when you’ve been guided to the most straightforward and simplistic info on what to do. You’re only wasting time and going to confuse yourself further by adding anything else to it. Nothing else is necessary. And that’s something you sort of need to accept here, too.

Yeah, I know. I'm being silly. But it's just that I seriously get confused with everything. I've been googling ways to manifest him bac everywhere and all the information is making me feel overwhelmed and confused. And Neville has never said how to manifest a lover back. And I'm not that bright you know, I need someone to tell me how to do it 😭 I know I have to live as if it were happening and be sure it will happen. But how the hell do I do that???? You know?

 
The Law and the Promise, chapter 3. It doesn't matter whether he's an ex-boyfriend or not or the past history, if any. The principle is always the same no matter what it is that you want to consciously create.

That's a book?? I'll read it asap. Thank you so much!!

Aquilina wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

It sounds like you think you are nothing without this person. You need to realise that is not true.

I agree, that's how it seems. That's why I think you wouldn't be ready to apply Neville's teachings because of the emotional situation because you feel out of control. You have said before that you love yourself but what you've said isn't the talk of someone that loves themself. To love yourself is to be the substance of your own life. This energy that you are feeling, is going to repel him and not attract him. But don't panic about how you feel just accept that it's how you feel and that you will do something about it and don't put pressure on yourself or be harsh on yourself for feeling the way you feel.

You should practise meditation in some form. It will help to relax you and take a step back from your feelings. 
 

I do believe I love myself. But I don't believe that I should be everything for myself. That feels like such a cold way of looking at life. I'm a very romantic person, I feel that's what makes you guys think I don't really love myself. I believe people we love are as important as we are, you know? The way you guys say it sounds too cold for me. I don't feel it is a bad thing to love him this much and not want to live without him. Because I really don't. But I don't feel miserable without him. I just don't feel as happy. I don't know if I'm expressing it right. But I do not think I'm nothing without him. I'm a very amazing person, thank you very much. I may be sounding depressing because I miss him, but I very much so love myself and think of myself as an entirely separate amazing individual without him. I just want him in my life, us in an amazing relationship, he's my soul mate, the love of my life. And yeah, that's it. I hope I clarified it, because I'm not depressed and I'm not as anxious as I sound. I only write these things when I'm sad. But I have these moments of sadness and they're waaaaaa

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

It's good that you are getting this all out of your system and I agree with the response but my other comments would be:

What would you feel if he didn't do some grand gesture to prove he loves you? So what? Is it that you would have no self worth without that?

I agree about the need aspect. Being needy is repellent and annoying for the recipient. Would the neediness stop if you were in a relationship?

You say you are reading Neville but are you applying it?

You sound crippled with anxiety to the point of being unable to function. Was it you who posted about the domestic situation the other day? I'm using my phone and can't check other posts. Do you think you should see a doctor?

This level of anxiety and upset is very worrying. It sounds like you think you are nothing without this person. You need to realise that is not true.

I broke him with him because of my self worth. This isn't about not loving myself. I do and I am happy most of the time. But I miss him and I don't want to be away from him anymore.
All I want is to have a new relationship with him. I want him to be as in love and as passionate as he was in the beggining (because I drove him away). I want to fix eveything and show him how much I love him. It hurts my heart to remember all the fights I started for no reason and all the times he was so patient and apologized even though he did nothing and I would be so mean and he would be loving and sweet and I need to fix it. I screwed up. I screwed up so bad.
And I can live without him. I am living. I'm doing the things I like, I'm learning to draw and write with my left hand actually! And it's cery exciting. But I don't want to live without him, specially knowing that if I hadn't screwed up, we would be together right now.
And I'm sorry for bothering you guys, really. I just have no one else to talk to about this. And thank you so much for caring.

I'm so scared. I'm trying, but I'm so scared. It's been a month since I broke up with him and he hasn't come after me yet. And that hurts and scares me so much. And I distract myself, I have fun, I talk to my friends, do the things I like to do, but at the end of each day this loging for him in my heart grows and grows. I miss him more than words can describe. And no matter how good my day is, there's always something missing. I miss him so much, I love him so much. I can't lose him. I'm so afraid of him moving on. I'm so afraid of him not loving me anymore. And I always have nightmares. Even if I'm positive and happy with my visualizations before falling asleep, I always have a nightmare about him and I wake up feeling so sad and so broken and so scared. I'm reading Neville and I'm still scared. What if we're all just delusional? And also, I want him to come after me because he loves me, not because I manifested it. I'm so confused. And I miss him so much. Looking back, I never valued his presence as much as I should, and if he were to be by my side right now I would be exploding with happiness. I don't get why we take things for grated until we lose them. I just know I will never ever take him for granted again. But I need him to come after me. I can't talk to him. I need him to come after me and do something big to prove he loves me because after everything, I need something big to believe it. I need him to do something super romantic for me to believe he loves me. And some people will find it immature because oh my god this girl wants a proof of his love that's so immature omg. But I need it. And I also know some of you are tired of people like me, but my brain gets confused at so much information. I'm still waiting for some angel to respond to my post telling me step by step what I should do haha, because I wanted to buy Veronica's book more than everything but I can't. This is useless too. No one will help me the way I need help either because no one should re

Serendipity wrote:

oceanitrogen wrote:

Guys, I have one question. I want him back, but I want him to come back begging for forgiveness. I want him to work for it, I want him to prove to me a thousand different ways that he loves me. I want him to look and sound desperate, I want him to do all that is possible for me. Is that an issue?

Personally, I don't think this is the approach you want to take when it comes to manifesting a person. Focusing on wanting them to crawl back apologetic will only reinforce the fact that you're not together. 

The trick is to focus on the end result, everything else falls into place. 
 

My point with all of that was that I want him to come back warm and open and loving and in love, the way he was (or more) before I messed it all up. And knowing him, if he doesn't beg for forgiveness, it means he's not warm and loving because when he is, he does A LOT. That's what I meant. I want that amazing boy back. (Boy because we're 19, not really a man yet).