[size=125]Hi, I'm new :-) I have been reading things on here though & seen some of Veronica's videos.  Got the book Distinct Desires too. 

Here's what's happened.  Although I've had relationships before,  I've had a big 5 plus year gap when there's been nobody nothing serious.  Even though I wanted that.  Anyway, so along came this online guy but he seemed to have more to him than the types of guys I've been meeting.  He seemed to want a relationship with me and although he's as cheeky as the others!  In fact, OK I don't know if he MEANT it, but he basically TOLD me he'd love me to be his girl.

He also seems sweet and romantic too.  Anyway, I was scared to meet him, scared of rejection and before that I put it off one other time cos he's 2 hours from me and I was tired.  Anyway then I really really wanted to meet him, esp. after our second chat on the phone when I realised that yes he DID seem to want a relationship with me.  He even said these lovey dovey things and I was like hang on we haven't met yet! But it was beautiful.

Anyway, so, he's seeing someone else now and I was initially upset because I feel like if I'd not been scared to meet him (scared of rejection not scared that he might be bad!) maybe that would be me!

I went no contact but I did cave and text him recently and he said maybe one day (sexual things) but he also included maybe he'll be holding me and saying he loves me.

I said "Why do I feel like part of you WANTS that?"

And he replied: "Because I do ;-)"

I said I want that too but you keep running off into the sunset with others.  He stopped replying!  

So basically the deal is, he won't cheat because he's not like that, he's seeing how things go with this girl and he's a faithful guy and I wouldn't WANT him to cheat nor would I get involved in THAT but if he's single in the future he still wants to meet me and he said he'll let me know.

I guess as it's not an ex do I have ANY chance at all?  He DOES seem to have feelings