So much sense here. Good for any kind of relationship in our lives; whether it's about our partner, our friends, our family. 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKHcqfPegsA

I would not contact him, and definitely I wouldn't send him a Xmas gift. He hasn't contacted you, and he totally ignored the goodies you sent him earlier.  I think that says loud and clear that he still needs space right now.

Keep working on the loa and visualize what you want to happen with full confidence. 

I totally relate to what you say, Cherished, especially about the waiting.

I used to think that I was better at manifesting small things, but lately I've realized that I did also manifest a whole lot of big things, too. But the thing I noticed is that, with so many things I've manifested successfuly, I just sent out a strong, simple intention and then let it go with a feeling of confidence that I will eventually get what I have asked for. After that I more or less forgot about it, and later it manifested.

I remember for example years ago, my mom and I were sitting drinking tea in front of the fire, and I suggested writing out an ideal scene, plus a list of goals that we wanted to reach. Both of these exercises came from the book "Creative Visualization", which I had just read. We just sat talking happily about our ideal scenes, writing them out on paper, and then also writing out our goals that we wanted to manifest in the near, mid-term, and long-term future. It was all a lot of fun but we didn't take it seriously. I did, however, have a light hearted feeling of expectation that I would get at least some of the things I had asked for. My intention was to look over what I had written every day for a few moments, but in the end I just put everything away and forgot about it.

Then, some time later (maybe three or four years or so) I found the list and the ideal scene, and to my amazement I realized that almost everything had manifested. This was really astounding to me, since I had put almost no effort into it whatsoever, and had even for the most part, let it all slip from my mind. And these things weren't all small wishes - many were big things, like a house in a specific country, for example, money goals, and certain objects.

On the other hand, there was one thing not included in that ideal scene that was extremely important to me. I even felt at one point that my whole happiness depended on it. With that I hadn't put my intention away in a drawer a

I would completely disregard the opinions of all those who told you to forget him, because the only important thing here is what YOU want to happen. Remember that loa gives you anything you want, without exception, so do the visualizing diligently and patiently, and you will be amazed at what will happen.

Thank you for such an awesome post!
I think that whatever the outcome, none of us will ever be the same once we begin that journey. We just tend to see the world around us with a different pair of eyes and with a different heart, too. Really, ex back or no ex back, Loa is one of the best things that ever happened to me.