Hi

I have been married for 11 years however 8 years back another person came into my life who I eventually fell In love with. This other person has also been married for 14 years. Neither one of us wants to leave our respective spouses.

We’ve had the most wonderful emotional connection over the last 8 years. It started from casual texting to meeting to once in a week to meeting everyday and texting 24/7.

Things were not always smooth but we’ve been emotional anchors for each other for this duration.

Last year is when things took a turn for the worst when I landed up in some legal trouble and was wrongfully incarcerated for 3 days. On my subsequent restless from incarceration I found myself a totally different person. So much so that I decide to cut all ties with this wonderful person, convincing myself to be gathering bad Karma because of this secret relationship.
I became inert to all her crying and emotional pleas to become normal. I shunned her away and even said hurtful and mean things that may have pierced her heart.

But over a period of 3-4 months the voice of my guilty conscience simmered down and things were back to normal.

Within 4 months she started having problems in her marriage owning to which she began neglecting me and spending much lesser time with me.

So much so most of our time spent was fighting over my sulks and whining for lack of time she afforded me.

She suspected that her husband was involved with another woman, which probably triggered in her a sense of guilt.

The fights escalated and both our healths were affected.

One such incident triggered a very bad fight and within a span of two months I saw her drift away from me.

We stopped communicating for 3 days and ever since she has distanced herself from me emotionally.

We text every day and speak whenever it’s possible for her, but she’s buffered herself from any or all
emotional connect with me .

She says she needs time and space to salvage her marriage because that