The best thing for you to do is to work toward letting go. Wishing for thier marriage to fail is not a feeling that you want to feed your energy into. For your own sake, try not to focus on those types of thoughts. Wishes that are hurtful to others, can only attract negative things to you.
 

I would like to suggest saying the Ho'oponopono Prayer. I know that it might seem a bit silly, but I have found it very helpful in taming my emotions. The idea behind it is that you can improve any situation through self forgiveness. The words are simple: "I am sorry... Please forgive me... I love you... Thank you". I visualize my SP while I repeat it. When I started with it I was feeling really depressed and desperate for forgiveness. After going through the first meditation session, I felt a lot better. Now, after doing it for a few days, I don't feel desperate anymore. I feel like my situation with my SP is going to sort itself out somehow. I am respecting her current wish for no contact, but I really feel that we will have contact again. And I am already working on things that I want to show her. My situation is a bit different since my SP isn't a romantic partner. But I think this could be helpful to you in your situation as well.

Rhea456 wrote:

good idea...can everyone who wants to start pm me their email (this will all be confidential) and we can start this challenge today or tomorrow

Do you have room for another buddy? My circumstance is a bit different from many of the others here. I am working on attracting one of my sisters back into my life. May I please join your Facebook group too?