Samantharose27 wrote:

Hey Cynthia thank you! I appreciate the feed back. I actually have never heard of the law of assumption! So by what your suggest is taking this as a positive? Such as a “he may be away but he’s missing me”, “he wants to talk to me right now”, etc?

 
Yes, absolutely. Affirm everything you want your relationship to be no matter what outward appearances may look like. You don't have to believe your affirmations, but you do have to persist with them. Another good method is to imagine the end result as though it is happening right now, not in the future. That is living in the end.

These are all good examples of everyone is you pushed out. It's no different with your SP, so apply the same principle to him. Why do you need permission to contact him? You are already in contact with him, so cutting him off makes no sense. It's important not to give a negative meaning to what seems to be less recent contact from him and not to react to that. It means nothing unless you give a meaning to it, so if you are going to attach a meaning to it make it a positive one that is bringing you closer together. In fact, I would see this whole experience with the ill person as bringing you closer together.

Why are you depressed? What you've said doesn't make a lot of sense. You said you were doing what Neville said and felt good about manifesting your SP, but you had set a time limit for that to happen because you were depressed and might commit suicide? I think you also said you felt good about manifesting the SP but since it hadn't happened in the time limit you'd set, that made you depressed and suicidal and you felt better before you ever heard of Neville or maybe it was loa. Forget loa. So much of what is said about it is rubbish. If you only knew about the ups and downs I've had with my current SP, you could get really depressed over that, but I'm not because things had to change and in the process I learnt about everyone is you pushed out, which I hadn't known before.

I don't think there's anything I or anyone can say that can ever get through to you. You have decided you've failed due to a silly arbitrary time limit. You're right and you'll get all the proof you need, but you could just as easily carry on, persist and change your attitude that it just hasn't happened in the 3D yet, and you'd be right about that. Whichever way you decide, you're right. The time limit and giving up doesn't make any sense to me. You can't want it very badly.

And you're right about getting out of your way because you are the only one who is in your way, and that goes for anyone.

Did you even read my post before the Neville quotes? It took me at least an hour to type it out on this tablet with one finger.

I still don't know what the time limit was about. Are you going to say or not?

I know what it is like to be deeply depressed. When I was a teenager I lay about crying all day every day for a year. Do you know how I got out of it? I decided to, otherwise I could have gone on like that indefinitely. Did I go from deeply depressed to ecstatically happy? No, but I at least went to functional and started doing productive things again.

One thing that has worked very well for me in manifesting is to go into neutral, which means not being positive or negative about it, to suspend disbelief, and to look at what I'm doing as an experiment to see what results I will get. I sold an unwanted piano to the ideal buyer, all done and dusted, within a week. Prior to that, just advertising it, there had been no interest.

Another thing I do on a regular basis that has been very effective is to state that something I want to happen is going to happen and when, if that matters to me, and say it like I mean it and am in charge, and I have a very high degree of success with that.

I've read everything you've written, and if I knew why you put a time limit on this I wouldn't be asking why. Why is there a time limit? What is the sense of urgency? Without knowing more, I would say it really looks like this time limit you've imposed on yourself has been the problem, especially as it got closer to the end of the time limit and nothing had happened yet.

Since you mentioned it, I think it is ridiculous for anyone to waste one second of their time trying to manifest a text message. That is an entirely different manifestation and has nothing to do with a relationship. It is living in the end of getting a text message. If you focus on the relationship, some form of contact has to happen, not the other way around.

You talked about changing your thoughts and not seeing results in the 3D. Did you expect the 3D to change instantly as soon as you started changing your thoughts? Like any habit, lasting change can take some time before it becomes the new habit.

Have those books and videos to do with getting an ex back or SP within a certain short period of time got anything to do with this time limit thing? That might possibly seem to succeed temporarily, if it happens at all, and I haven't seen much evidence of that, but it also usually fails in the long term because nothing has changed so the same mistakes are made, the same old reactionary behaviours recur, leading to another breakup.

I know from personal experience that Neville's teachings are true and they do work, but some manifestations take longer than others.

I married an SP, long before I ever heard of Neville, by imagining I was married to him and wearing an imaginary wedding ring. During most of the time leading up to that we had minimal contact and were in different countries thousands of miles apart, and it didn't happen overnight. I had left London and knew I wouldn't be returning to London where he was for some time, and I never felt a need to put a time limit on it. I just focussed on th