Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum / Feeling Awful

**Posted by Butterfly31** 10/31/2017 6:30 am

Hi everyone,

I recently hooked up with someone and i feel terrible if though i am single. I want my ex back but i know i cant spend every waking minute thinking about her all the time. I figure that me dating othet people was a way to past the time and help move on but iy just made me feel worst and confirm that my ex is the only one i want. My heart is torn and i dont know what to do. I dont want to hurt the other persons feeligs but i have no interest of having a relationship with them at all. I just dont feel myself anymore and feel lost. What am I to do. I also started to think that maybe i should move to another state to completely start over

**Posted by sillyromantic** 10/31/2017 7:16 am

Don't feel awful, we are all human and we make mistakes. You will be ok, trust me. As for moving away, from my experience moving away doesnt always fix the situation, you can't run away from yourself. Just focus on yourself for now, it will help you feel better. It took me 6 months to make peace with my ex leaving and I know hes still thinking about me but I value myself more now

**Posted by Butterfly31** 10/31/2017 7:38 am

sillyromantic wrote:
Don't feel awful, we are all human and we make mistakes. You will be ok, trust me. As for moving away, from my experience moving away doesnt always fix the situation, you can't run away from yourself. Just focus on yourself for now, it will help you feel better. It took me 6 months to make peace with my ex leaving and I know hes still thinking about me but I value myself more now

Thank you for that. Its been 8 months and i just wish i was able to be ok with the breakup but its hard. Most people have said to me if its been this long i should be over it but im not. I hope to make peace like you soon. i know moving away doesnt seem like it should be my answer but i just hate knowing we are close and have mutual friends I want to value myself more because really i feel unworthy and my self confidence is gone. I really dont know who i am anymore.

**Posted by Stacey** 10/31/2017 8:51 am

There's no shame in a hookup! I understand how you feel though but please don't beat yourself up over it. It's better to just be upfront with the person though, the truth isn't always a pleasant time but it'll hurt less than being lied to.

As Sillyromantic says focus on yourself, for now, you're the most important person in this scenario.

**Posted by Butterfly31** 10/31/2017 9:39 am

Staceylouuu91x wrote:
There's no shame in a hookup! I understand how you feel though but please don't beat yourself up over it. It's better to just be upfront with the person though, the truth isn't always a pleasant time but it'll hurt less than being lied to.

As Sillyromantic says focus on yourself, for now, you're the most important person in this scenario.

Your right sillyromantic its just hard for me to not feel gulity. You guys are both correct maybe i should just focus on me and putting dating to the side for awhile until im ok. Thanks for your advice

**Posted by sillyromantic** 10/31/2017 10:17 am

I understand, we've all been there and going through it. I'm not gonna say it's easy. I still think about my ex a lot too but he's not the center of my focus anymore. And I know I'm going to run into him in a month at some business conference but I can't let it get to me because I may find someone even better soon. There is no one-fits all advice here. Just try to do things that keep you social and busy, join a local meetup group, exercise... It really helps taking your focus off that person for a little while.