Colonel Roosevelt wrote:
RR33, you've mentioned on reddit that you're a fan of Neville Goddard...but if you look into his stuff more closely, you'll see that the whole "get my ex back" attitude isn't doing you any good.
We don't attract what we want, we attract what we are. That's why we have to see in ourselves that we are already that which we want to be.
That's what Neville talked about - and if you keep the mindset that you are already who you want to be and feel that - then you'll see that the whole "get my ex back" attitude was a prison...because there is nothing to get back...there is only the state of mind to realize in yourself.
When you see that you are already who you want to be - then your state of mind will shift as if you already have all the love you need.
CR summed it up so perfectly. Can I ask you right now please list honestly how do you feel right now and how do you see yourself? Please be very honest. Now make a list of all the qualities you want to see of yourself. Where are the gaps? How do you close them? Notice in the exercise I don't mention the girl. It's not about her, it's all about you.
I was like you. I was willing to give everything in the Universe for my ex. To the point where I forgot about me. But the thing is that my ex fell in love with ME, and not the person I had become. You need to get yourself back and once you do, you may not even necessarily want her back. Trust me, I thought I'd never get to that stage but now I'm at a point where I don't even care if he came back or not. And guess what? We actually are able to talk as friends! Trust me, I thought we'd never get there, but the moment you just stop caring, which means stop watching YouTube videos or going on forums, you will feel better.
Get your ex back is a vicious cycle. Think of it, when your subconscious mind is in that mentality all it does is attract more scenarios of wanting your ex back. However, if you affirm how awesome you are, etc, you start becoming that awesome person.