PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Here are some of the things I have had said to me which I am posting for discussion on your thoughts. I am not advocating these, but would like to "debunk" anything that is misleading or pointless:

The Universe will decide when the time is right.
The Universe will send you someone/something better. Let the Universe decide for you.
It is meant/not meant to be.
You don’t attract what you are, you attract what you believe.
You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.
Not getting what we want can be the greatest gift.
Detach from the outcome and let the Universe do her thing

 

 
There is no universe outside yourself.  When your subconscious mind accepts something as true, it is after that that it will become a reality in the outer world.  Even Neville said he couldn't say how long that would take.

There's no universe outside yourself, so nothing outside yourself will be deciding anything for you. If you didn't know anyone who was single and wanted to be married, though, for example, you could imagine yourself being happily married to the ideal person, and the more detail about the type of person and relationship you want the better, and that person would appear in what might look like it was just random or a 'coincidence', and the same for a house, job, car, or anything else, but it was because you created it.

Nothing is either meant to be or not meant to be unless you believe it one way or the other. You create your own reality by what you believe to be true, and if your subconscious beliefs are not the same as what you consciously think you believe, the subconscious beliefs will take precedence. If you've got limiting subconscious beliefs, until you can replace them with other beliefs that are in harmony with what it is you want, your subconscious beliefs will prevent you from having whatever it is. This is the whole point of doing visualisations, imagining that you already have what you want, feeling like you have what you want already, living it in your imagination, etc., and why imagination creates reality. These are ways that you can impress these beliefs into your subconscious mind until it accepts them as true. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between something that is real and something that is imagined.

You attract what you are? I've seen that comment being put about. What does that even mean?  It is your beliefs that are all important and are what create your life and experiences.

Detachment, attachment, alignment, the universe outside yourself 'doing its thing' or words to that effect, if I see any of that nonsense again, which I'm sure I will, I think I'll scream.

Last edited by Cynthia (9/21/2018 1:42 pm)

Cynthia wrote:

If you've got limiting subconscious beliefs, until you can replace them with other beliefs that are in harmony with what it is you want, your subconscious beliefs will prevent you from having whatever it is. This is the whole point of doing visualisations, imagining that you already have what you want, feeling like you have what you want already, living it in your imagination, etc., and why imagination creates reality. These are ways that you can impress these beliefs into your subconscious mind until it accepts them as true. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between something that is real and something that is imagined.

This is the best explanation regarding visualization that I have ever read! As silly as it sounds, I always believe visualization to be part of the process of LoA not as a tool to actually change your subconscious beliefs. After reading this paragraph I felt like smacking myself in the forehead and saying “duh!”.

Cool post. I feel like adding my two cents.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

The Universe will decide when the time is right.

I am not fully sure about the timing thing, but I am pretty sure that we have a lot of control over the timing by the beliefs and expectations we hold. And who should be that universe that makes decisions for us anyways? In the end, it's only us and nothing else. What decides about the timing is our own subconscious part and we can influence und change that. As I have already manifested to a specific date, I think we can have up to 100% control over the timing, if it is relevant to us.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

The Universe will send you someone/something better. Let the Universe decide for you.

Utter bullshit for people who aren't strong enough and try to find excuses for their failure. There is no "universe".

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

It is meant/not meant to be.

Same here. People saying that either don't understand LoA or look for excuses outside of themselves. "Don't worry cutie. It's not your fault. It's just not meant to be." It's totally your fault, but who wants to hear that?

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

You don’t attract what you are, you attract what you believe.

Never heard that one. You do attract what you are and what you believe is part of what you are.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.

Absolutely right. The only thing with this sentence is people don't understand it and therefore can't work with it. Took me years to get this.
It should be obvious by now that you don't attract what you want, else this forum wouldn't exist. From desperately trying to change my thoughts, I can also say that thoughts don't create reality, although most LoA teachers teach exactly that. Beliefs do create, but they are part of what you are, what you feel to be true about yourself and the world. So changing who you are skips changing thoughts, changing beliefs and is in my opinion the fastest way to get what you want.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Not getting what we want can be the greatest gift.

It depends. Most people coming here are not very conscious. They often think they want something, but the truth is that they only want to avoid something other. So not getting the job you feel you need to get the money can be a gift. It can give you the possibility to find a job that is better for you by reajusting your feelings. So for unconscious people that may be true once in a while. But for people with a deeper understanding, it's bullshit. I personally think that the "true" desires (which aren't a middle to some other desire) are directly given from God/Source/Higher Self, however you want to call it. So this should be best for you. And if it doesn't fit anymore at some point, you can still go for the next thing you desire instead.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Detach from the outcome and let the Universe do her thing

Again this damn universe...There is something to detachment as I understand it today. I see it like this. When you have a desire, you are first in the state of desiring it, not having it. What you have to do in order to get it is to move from the state of desiring to the state of having the wish fulfilled. This moving means you detach from the old state, you let go of the desire in the sense that it isn't a desire anymore, because you have it. So you get blind to everything that indicates that it isn't true, you let go of all the thoughts, feelings and beliefs that are linked to the state of desiring - that's how I would understand detachment. And the ultimate state of detachment would be to know that everything you could ever desire is already done, that you don't have to do anything for it and that it's yours. Maybe that's enlightenment? I don't know.