fizzy wrote:

LotsOfLove wrote:

Hi everyone,
Looking for some insights on aligning or even just some good vibes sent my way. I was doing quite well and feeling very good about my current situation and attracting back my ex, but then some things happened that brought me down and have me questioning myself and the Law of a Attraction. I’ve started worrying that I’m not good enough and that my situation is too complicated to fix.

I have started looking at my current reality and I don’t see any signs that anything has changed and that has added to my depression. I’m sad and scared that I can never get back together with this person and that breaks my heart. I know from this place I cannot attract anything positive but I feel really stuck. I can list so many reasons why my ex might not come back and suddenly I am missing him so much. I know I need to get out of this state but I really just want to sit down and cry.

Things take time to change. There’s no guarantee that things will start to change in a week, two weeks, etc. Things typically don’t take long to manifest, but part of the process is trusting that it will all happen at the right time. Worrying or interfering with that process will only slow it down.

Can you imagine being in a relationship with this person? If you can, that means it exists as a possibility in consciousness. If you can imagine it, it exists already, and can be made manifest. So there’s never a time where it’s impossible.

You said you can list reasons why your ex won’t come back. How about reasons why your ex could? That’s where you want your focus to be. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sitting down and crying. But after that, you need to start seeing that you’re worthy of manifesting all you desire.

Thank you for your reply. Sometimes I can see us together again and sometimes I can’t. It can be difficult at times. I guess it’s frustrating because I have been trying to bring him back into my life with LoA for several years now and can’t really see any result. I know things won’t just change overnight but I guess after awhile it feels like I’m trying for nothing. Then I get down on myself and think maybe I’m not as great as I was or maybe something is wrong with me and that’s why he doesn’t come back...

fizzy wrote:

LotsOfLove wrote:

Thank you for your reply. Sometimes I can see us together again and sometimes I can’t. It can be difficult at times. I guess it’s frustrating because I have been trying to bring him back into my life with LoA for several years now and can’t really see any result. I know things won’t just change overnight but I guess after awhile it feels like I’m trying for nothing. Then I get down on myself and think maybe I’m not as great as I was or maybe something is wrong with me and that’s why he doesn’t come back...

But the idea of you and him being together is still conceivable, right? Anything conceivable is a possibility that already exists.

If you have been trying to attract him back for several years, then there’s something you’ve been doing “wrong”, so to speak.

There’s nothing wrong with you, you have the same manifesting ability that you’ve always had. He only doesn’t come back because you are blocking that in some way. Look at your beliefs about yourself, about him, and about what’s possible. Find whatever isn’t supporting you being in a relationship with him right now.

I’ll tell you my view of reality (got it from Neville) that has helped some others. Reality is just a dream. It’s your dream, so it can go however you want. You can be whoever you want, and others are just acting out whatever you believe to be true of them. Everyone lives in their own dream, so no one has the ability to create in yours. What manifests is a result of what you are believing to be true about everything. If you believe that you are wonderful as you are, and that you are in the relationship with him right now and hold to that feeling, that’s what you must experience.

I hope this helps a bit more.

Thank you, your reply does help. I think what I have a tendency to do is start to get things going well and make progress (even if it’s not always visible) and then something will throw me off kilter and I’ll get down about things and that negates a lot of the good progress that has happened!

I also have a tendency I try to figure things out how things make sense according to logic, or at least what I have always believed to be logic (before I learned about LoA) and that sometimes conflicts with my LoA belief. (Ex: logic would say if we’re not together and he hasn't reaches out to me then he probably doesn’t want to be with me while belief in LoA would say things could be brewing under the surface or it’s divine timing at work)

LotsOfLove wrote:

Thank you, your reply does help. I think what I have a tendency to do is start to get things going well and make progress (even if it’s not always visible) and then something will throw me off kilter and I’ll get down about things and that negates a lot of the good progress that has happened!

I also have a tendency I try to figure things out how things make sense according to logic, or at least what I have always believed to be logic (before I learned about LoA) and that sometimes conflicts with my LoA belief. (Ex: logic would say if we’re not together and he hasn't reaches out to me then he probably doesn’t want to be with me while belief in LoA would say things could be brewing under the surface or it’s divine timing at work)

Yes, that could very well be why you haven’t been successful. I’m not sure if you are familiar with Bashar, but he says that when you change your energy (through living in the wish fulfilled) you will sometimes experience an “echo” from your old reality. Meaning something may happen that seems to go completely against what you’re trying to manifest. The way to deal with that is to not let it affect you and keep on living in your wish fulfilled. That’s when real change will start to happen. And it’s definitely true that changes aren’t always visible.

You’re right, LOA isn’t always logical. Reality only reflects you and no one else. So whatever you believe is what you’ll get. I don’t believe in co-creation in the sense that you are creating a part of this situation and he is creating the other part. To me, that simply doesn’t make sense. This is your reality, so you are creating the situation entirely with what you believe. You are only interacting with a version of him. He is creating his own reality entirely, and interacting with his version of you. The situation, and him, will change when your beliefs change.

To answer your question about finding out what’s blocking your efforts, I would just take a look at how you are viewing the situation. You have the power to change everything about it, so are you viewing yourself as worthy of the relationship? Are you viewing him as someone who would work well with you?

Why can’t you be in the relationship with him right this moment? If your answer is something like “because he doesn’t like me”, then that’s a limiting belief right there. Your beliefs and how you view things has to match up with the idea of having a wonderful relationship with him right now.