Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum / Attracting what you are /like attracting like

**Posted by PrettyFlamingo** 3/17/2018 4:12 pm

I'm not sure which area to write this actually. I've got a friend who's a bit - perhaps a lot - unsettled. She's got herself into some debt but she's dealing with that. She's not in a settled relationship and would really like to be. There's someone she sees each day who she likes. She's also overweight. She's a friendly intelligent and fun person. She's got some idea though that she doesn't have the right to pursue a relationship because of her money situation and weight as it wouldn't be fair to inflict that on a guy.

I'm finding it difficult to advise her. She's also starting Weight Watchers. She thinks you attract what you are so all she's going to get is a fat man with debts! I think that isn't true but can't give her more concrete advice as I'm no example when it comes to love!

What are your feelings? I'd love to help her.

**Posted by Cynthia** 3/17/2018 4:38 pm

If you wanted to, and this works because I've done it for somebody else, although not for these reasons so in a different way, as Neville explained you could imagine your friend having lost the weight, being out of debt, and being happy in a loving relationship with somebody the same as you could do for yourself for whatever your desire is. Otherwise, she's going to have to change her thinking about these things and start imagining 'living from the end of the wish fulfilled' as if she had her desires already. To help her change her thinking, you could do the same thing as I mentioned before - imagine her having done that and having this work for her.

Last edited by Cynthia (3/17/2018 4:40 pm)

**Posted by Sanshi** 3/17/2018 8:03 pm

Shouldn't she expect to attract a fat woman with debts with her logic? It's true that you get what you are, but in a different sense. If you are someone who is secure about their weight and don't worry about anybody caring about it then you will get the reflection of it by finding a partner who doesn't care about your weight. If you are insecure about your weight, believe that you will still find a partner, but one who puts you down for your weight - that's what you will get. It's always what you feel to be true. You are what you feel to be true and you get what you feel to be true.