Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum / Suddenly acting cold...

**Posted by LotsOfLove** 12/16/2017 3:43 pm

For the past little while my ex and I have been casually friendly when we run into each other (we’ll say hello and ask how the other is doing, pass the time f day type thing) but suddenly he is acting really cold and distant. He barely says hello and really seems to almost avoid me. Same thing with my family members too. Any opinions on what might cause this? I kind of flip flop when it comes to the Law of Attraction - I do really well and then doubt for awhile and then do well again. It’s a cycle that I’m working on fixing...however I’ve never had him act this way towards me before. Any ideas on what would cause this? Is it in response my flip flopping vibes? I can’t imagine that he all of a sudden hates me for no reason. Then maybe I think he is starting to feel something for me and maybe is trying to push away from it (he’s in a current relationship right now - although i can’t say for sure I don’t think it’s a particularly happy one) It’s all very confusing for me especially since I’m a person who tried to figure things out all the time and tries to find deeper meaning to things. (That can be a good thing and a bad thing!) Any thoughts, opinions or ideas?

**Posted by Sanshi** 12/16/2017 8:00 pm

This is about you. You make it completely about you. Doesn't matter what he says or does. You waste your time when you start analysing it. Invest that time in fixing you and your doubts and study LoA until you fully understand it.

**Posted by LotsOfLove** 12/16/2017 9:37 pm

How do I determine what it is within me that is bringing all this about?

**Posted by Sanshi** 12/17/2017 4:54 am

By looking for what you feel to be true about the situation and change that. Trying to figure out deeper meaning isn't the best thing to do here, because there is none. It's like figuring out why the image in the mirror wears a blue t-shirt. What does it mean? Hm...maybe it will rain today? No, it only means one thing and that is that the cause is within the original image that you put in front of the mirror. Leave the mirror alone. Stop feeling the lack of him, don't give attention to what he is doing now.

**Posted by LotsOfLove** 12/17/2017 8:10 am

Sanshi wrote:
By looking for what you feel to be true about the situation and change that.

This is what I’m having trouble with. I have manifested things both big and small but this is probably the one thing that is closest to my heart that I have tried to manifest. I know this can create a lot of resistance and that is where I struggle. I know I need to let go in some ways and detach but at the same time I feel like I need to hold on because it’s something I want so much.

**Posted by LotsOfLove** 12/18/2017 6:24 am

Anyone have any additional thoughts? I know the change has been caused by me but I can’t determine what I’ve been feeling or doing that might be different! Is it possible to have what seems like a negative reaction in your person of interest if his feeling are actually turning around?

**Posted by Sanshi** 12/18/2017 6:44 am

Again, it's not his feelings that have to turning around. It has nothing to do with him. Nobody to change but self. And I would suggest to not try to figure out why he does what and what thought of you cased it. What do you want? You want the relationship, right? So how he acts now is completely irrelevant. Move in consciousness to the place where you have the relationship and stay there. The reflection has to catch up. There is no exception to this.
So you see, you don't have to give up on him or even the thoughts about him. You just have to feel yourself to be in a different place. From this place, thoughts flow automatically and it will be much more pleasant than the thoughts you have now. And before you know it, everything you want shows up in your reality.

**Posted by AnythingIsPossible** 12/18/2017 10:39 am

I wholeheartedly agree with what Sanshi is saying here. It really is only ever about you.

I wouldn't focus and put a ton of energy into trying to figure out what's 'wrong' with you. That'll keep you in a low vibration. There might be something within you to 'fix', but don't beat yourself up about it. Most of the time, overanalyzing situations and picking yourself apart because of them is a major part of the issue. Let go and try to have a more lighthearted, joyous approach to life. Love yourself exactly the way you are and love your life with the exact circumstances you're facing. In doing this, you will be able to approach your resistance with much more clarity. When the resistance comes up, you'll recognize it, know what you'll need to do to fix it, you'll fix it, and then move on with your life. The outcome of this situation is not what defines your happiness, unless you let it. I know this all might sound silly and it might not be what you want to hear, but it works.

If you want, go back and read old posts from this forum and study Neville Goddard. That's what has really helped to put things in perspective for me. Also, TheSilverLining has a great Daily Inspiration thread that I've been benefiting from.

**Posted by LotsOfLove** 12/18/2017 4:53 pm

Thank you both, that makes a lot of sense. I guess it’s just difficult to apply to our own lives sometimes!

**Posted by Sanshi** 12/18/2017 6:14 pm

LotsOfLove wrote:
Thank you both, that makes a lot of sense. I guess it’s just difficult to apply to our own lives sometimes!

Practice makes perfect.