Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum / He's With Another - (Looking for Encouragement)

**Posted by AnythingIsPossible** 12/04/2017 10:18 am

Hey guys! I'm going to keep this short because I don't want to give this too much energy, but I'm looking for some uplifting words of advice right now.

Backstory: My love ended things with me in April 2017 saying that we could never be in a relationship. He started seeing someone very shortly after. It hurt and I tried to not give it my attention as much as possible; although, I was still constantly checking social media to find any info I could on the status of their relationship. (As I'm typing this I'm realizing how destructive that was.) Anyway months went by and they were still seeing each other. Last night I checked his social media and he posted a picture of him looking at her very lovingly and she commented "I hope you look at me like that forever".

I'm very numb right now, but I'm also trying to just move on and stay positive. Laura (TheHappinessCoach) says that if you're looking at something with your physical eye it's old news, a past manifestation. So that's what I'm taking this as.

I've spoken with a psychic I trust who is very sure that he will come back. She says that he will come back and we will be in a restored relationship before the end of the year and that I shouldn't focus on timing, but on what is to come moving on. I don't see how in the world we could be together by Christmas since he's clearly in a loving relationship, but I don't need to know how, right?

If you have any success stories of getting together with your person regardless of the circumstances or even just positive words of advice in general that would really help. Thanks in advance

**Posted by sillyromantic** 12/04/2017 10:37 am

I'm in a very similar situation right now and found out they moved in together in another near by state. It makes it harder but I'm trying to stay strong because I know that his feelings are conflicted. Don't watch social media, it will hurt more. I don't have access to his and I'm glad. Don't have any great advice, rather looking for one myself. I manifested some progress before I found out that she moved with him. I go back and fourth from wanting him and thinking that he's not the best for me since he was so insensitive on how he switched relationships. Don't lose hope.

**Posted by AnythingIsPossible** 12/04/2017 11:00 am

I read a success story on the secret website where a woman said being conflicted about wanting her man back is what was blocking her manifestation. And once she decided that she definitely wanted him and put in the self love work to bring him in, there he was.

When you think about it like that, she's right. If your desire and feelings waiver, and you 100% always manifest what you desire and feel, you're only manifesting more confusion. I do the exact same thing. My heart wants my guy, but when I get on self love high I tell myself that it's wrong to want him and I try to talk myself out of it. Now I'm working on embracing my truth and not being ashamed of it, no matter my state of mind. You can do it too!

**Posted by Selfloveiskey** 12/04/2017 11:41 am

This whole thing doesn't matter trust me. I manifested my guy back to me after a month of focusing on myself . He and this girl seemed to be in a perfect relationship and it killed me. I finally got tired of feeling horrible and focused on me. Things in my life started to work out all around and he was coming back. He said everything I want to hear. I know I can get that again. It can be done guys. Look up my journey. The reason I am here right now is cause of my fears. I know I got this and so do you

It's too much to type look me up! I started very low in August and before that and was very happy in September and October for the most part it was about me. I attracted him back because I was feeling happy and confident on my own.

Do the 25 day challenge and read love yourself like your life depends on it that's what I did it worked

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**Posted by sillyromantic** 12/04/2017 1:20 pm

That's the thing. What if I don't know if it's the best choice for me to want or get him back? A part of me felt this great chemistry again when I saw him this past weekend and a part of me says I deserve better.
I was thinking about starting over the 25 day challenge again to get myself feeling better but I can't find my kindle charger. Trying to re-collect myself and do more self love and affirmations again and not think about it too much but I get emotional from time to time.

**Posted by AnythingIsPossible** 12/04/2017 2:37 pm

I get emotional ALL the time, but I decide not to stay there. My default state used to be wallowing in self sabotaging thoughts and depression. Whenever I feel the urge to go back to that comfortable space I remember that only I have complete control over my thoughts. My outside circumstances don't control my emotions because I don't let them. I'm always forgive myself whenever I have those negative thoughts and then overwhelm myself with kindness and compassion. It's great.

**Posted by Kiba101** 12/04/2017 5:24 pm

It can definitely be done! I attracted my ex back last year who I was with for 4 years after not talking for a year and it was amazing how he was calling and texting like we when we were dating. BUT I let me fear and insecurities arise and as soon as my vibrations changed it just repelled him and I lost him. Now I’m doing the 25 day challenge again and really focusing on myself. And telling myself I deserve my desires and I am a awesome amazing person . We just have to make sure that we aren’t our own obstacles! And great point by anything is possible about forgiving ourselves! But keep up the positive vibes! And keep being the awesome wonderful person you are!

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**Posted by VeronicaAdmin** 12/04/2017 5:57 pm

I think it's important to remember that anything you desire right now may not be what you desire in the future and that's ok. It's ok to explore things, attract things, and decide what is the best fit for you. You don't have to decide on one thing for the rest of your life. We are constantly learning, growing and changing. So, we are allowed to change our minds and allowed to be free to attract whatever we feel in the moment. So, always go with your heart and don't worry - you can decide on something different in the future too. Because, it's your life and there are no limits

**Posted by sillyromantic** 12/05/2017 5:07 pm

Thank you, I need to be patient and keep working on me now. Took a few steps forward and a big one backward but I believe that he will come around and I can feel that he still has feelings for me regardless of his current situation. In the meantime I'm living my life and staying busy