Posted by Stacey ![]() 8/30/2017 5:06 pm | #1 |
I was checking some posts on another LOA forum I have been on and found the story from when I originally manifested someone back. My fears obviously pushed him away again but it was still a massive win for me at the time.
http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/topics/manifested-the-relationship-i-wanted-despite-things-seeming
I attracted the long distance relationship I wanted, I know to some the concept of a long distance relationship seems off but I wanted this and I got it. This post may seem all over the place but I'm so excited sharing it with you. I met this guy through Twitter when I was going through a really dark time in my life.
I'll spare the whole story but we spoke daily for months and were as close as possible, until one day the contact just stopped. I live with mental health afflictions so I jumped the gun and had a go at him for blocking me, so naturally, he did. He wouldn't reply to my texts or calls.
After breaking down an idea popped into my head telling me he was hurting over other things and my abrasive behaviour hurt him more, we struggle with similar issues. Something deep down was always telling me that he wasn't playing me and what we had was real, I sent one last message to him saying I'd always be here for him and I still care for him, also wrapped it up by telling him to take care of himself. I've used the secret many times, sometimes to benefit myself, other times against myself sadly.
This stuff really works and you need to be careful what you're asking for, you'll get it. The universe doesn't define things as “wants” and “do not wants”, if you think about it the most,its yours! I told myself that what him and I share can and will be a happy relationship despite the miles between us. I have more to gain than I did to lose. So I decided I'd trust the universe to guide me.
To fight the resistance my mind would often throw my way I researched many ways to higher my vibration and keep my moods as high as I could given I have days my thoughts aren't always on my side. I found ways to elevate my mood which were fun, I found a playlist called “Cheesy hits” on Spotify and I'd dance about sing to those songs, I'm not good at singing or dancing but I had such a blast doing it, it didn't even bother me how silly I'd look to onlookers, I was so caught up in the moment I could even have an audience and I'd be in my own world! If the weather was nice I'd either sit in the garden or go walk to a local park and script “I'm happy and grateful that my wonderful boyfriend and I are in regular contact and back to making our plans to meet, we are both happy”. I meditate a few times a day, sometimes silent and sometimes I'll use a guided one, I'll shout affirmations about loving myself and attracting the love I want.
This also may seem cheesy to some but I used song lyrics as an affirmation, I made a playlist using The Power of Love by Jennifer Rush and the cover by Celine Dion, that song is how I always imagined us as a couple, I'd have that on repeat before I visualised. I struggle with visualisation a lot so I'd also pretend he was with me sometimes, I'd make two cups of tea, one to the way he likes his (It wasn't wasted). I'd watch the shows we both like on my own leaving a space as if he was there, I cleared space in my room so he'd have somewhere to put his clothes, I stopped sleeping in the middle of my bed, to make sure he had a space to sleep next to me. I really got into this, I'd say goodnight to him, I'd imagine we'd be sat holding hands, I'd imagine kissing him, I'd imagine we'd be out in public holding hands, I'd even catch myself trying to look at him, he's such a handsome man, even though he was there in person, in my head he was. I even went out of my way to go to the train station and wait there for a little while imagining how I'd feel seeing him walk through and up to me!
During the times we'd be apart naturally because of the distance I'd have text conversations with myself replicating ones we'd have, to begin with all of this seemed insane but I was going to be living a life like this anyway, so what harm is getting a head start going to cause? I also took a lot of time to do nice things for myself, I've made mistakes in the past thinking I had to have relationships to make me appreciate my beauty and to make me happy. I took myself out for drinks, lunch, bought myself nice clothes, perfumes and anything that'd make me happy. If I had a bad day I'd have a duvet day and watch movies. This man obviously makes me happy but my happiness comes from me.
I reminded myself that I am beautiful and if someone else can't see that, then that's okay! Beauty is a matter of opinion and perspective, what I find gorgeous you might turn your nose up at. Imagine how dull life would be if we all saw things in the same light.
As mentioned earlier I'd take walks to places I found beautiful, sometimes we get caught up in life and forget to stop and see all the beauty we're surrounded with.
I also keep a gratitude journal which I'm more dedicated to now since I've stopped andsaw the world for what it is.
Yes, it can be awful but there's just as much good! I write anything that I have done that day that made me happy. If I've eaten food I liked, that gets noted. If I did well in a video game, noted. If someone brings me a cup of tea without me asking, noted. Even the smallest of things should be noted, it may not seem much on paper but I'm happy to have these experiences.
Letting go of the outcome was a little tricky at first. I'm the type of person who needs to know every last detail. This is where I struggle the most, I sat down and had a conversation with myself. I'd often tell myself “This is what I want, or maybe something better. By obsessing over the small things you're just focusing on what you don't have, you have many things to be grateful for, focus on those and go with the flow. You've asked for this relationship, it's yours. You can't control everything, let it go. You have so much to gain”. Then I'd go about my day, see friends and do whatever I wanted that'd make me happy, as well as the visualisation, meditation and gratitude activity. Things are great between us now, we are back in regular contact, we text a lot and even speak on the phone to finalise our plans, he's even going to be staying with me. Somethings didn't play out as I would have thought would but I'm honestly too happy to care.
Never give up, do whatever it takes to manifest your dreams. Do silly things if it helps you live in the moment. You're a powerful being and you can change your life for the better! <3 xx
Posted by Selfloveiskey ![]() 8/31/2017 11:53 am | #2 |
Thank you so much for posting this
Posted by PrettyFlamingo ![]() 8/31/2017 12:16 pm | #3 |
Thanks Stacey 😃
Posted by Kavik ![]() 9/01/2017 12:04 pm | #4 |
Thank you for sharing it, it's an amazing story and has a lot of details!!!
Posted by Stacey ![]() 9/02/2017 8:07 pm | #5 |
Thought I'd add this little bit not as a negative but as something we should all keep in mind. Once you manifest the person back try not to slip back into old habits.
I know this guy and I will cross paths again but I'm happy with working on me right now.
If you're trying to manifest an ex, make sure you're ready for a relationship and have forgiven them and yourself!
Posted by rpt.sunnymist ![]() 9/02/2017 10:25 pm | #6 |
Lots of tips here. Thanks a lot for this great post. Those things seems stupid, are very effective. Love it!!!