Posted by Neetadesai  7/11/2017 7:54 pm | #1 |
I tried being positive and I tired to talk to him he won't talk to me he blocked me he has another woman and he said he didn't give a damn about me. I never did anything to him he suddenly just cut all ties with me. I have known him all my life and I feel lost without him. What can I do? I can't do the text thing if he blocked me he won't call he doesn't even think about me.
He has not even seen my face since march he refuses to have any contact with me.
Help me
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Posted by barbidoll 7/12/2017 5:50 am | #2 |
Stop trying to talk with him sweetie that is the first step I know your desperation makes you do the stalking obsessive looking for excuses to contact him BUT the no contact rule is solid
What I want you to do is use the search and read the posts by Cherished she has a wonderful way with words and explains what you need to do well
Watch Veronica's video's and if you can afford it buy her ebooks this will help too
I have know personally people who have gotten their exes back after YEARS because they finally detached its all about the detachment
I am here to help you to the best of my ability you are surrounded by people here who understand
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Posted by jensherratt 7/12/2017 9:52 am | #3 |
If you can't stop thinking about him, then its because he's thinking about you too.
He clearly has resistance and is fearful of showing his true emotions. Deep down, he wants you too.
Desire works both ways.
We recieve exactly what we expect to recieve. - John Holland.
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Posted by 80saeaak 7/12/2017 10:16 am | #4 |
jensherratt wrote:
If you can't stop thinking about him, then its because he's thinking about you too.
He clearly has resistance and is fearful of showing his true emotions. Deep down, he wants you too.
Desire works both ways.
This is the top statement on this forum that makes me cringe. Desire and obsession are totally different things. Often times resistance to obsession is because they're repellelled. Obsession is not a good thing and shouldn't be encouraged or written off. I have no idea where forum members keep reading this nonsense about obsession being a good thing, but it's not. Quite the opposite. People with healthy inner-relationships (self-love, self-worth, self-esteem) don't have unhealthy thoughts and ideas haunting them about a specific person. Obsession is you telling you to step back and refocus.
Steps to take and why...
No contact. A person can't miss you if you're always available. Moreover, a person doesn't want to be harassed (I'm not implying this is happening here, but people seem to think obsession is a great thing so I'm including that).
Self-love: This is the most fundamental thing. No one wants the responsibility of loving someone because they refuse to love themselves. Constant reassurance and neediness aren't sexy. The more you love yourself, the more everything works out in your life. Take up hobbies. Make new goals that have nothing to do with your relationship. One of two things will happen: Either you will start vibrating so high that you don't want your POI (I didn't believe this could happen, but it happened to me) or you vibrate so high that they are attracted to you. Either way, YOU have control of the situation instead of the situation controlling you.
Visualizing and RS: These are the last things you should be doing. People spend hours every day doing this and you just don't need to do all that. I've never read a book of techniques that says to devote your life to this. Typically, manifesting a specific person should account for about 20% of your manifestation and visualizing work. The rest of the time you should be working on yourself, your career, you interests, whatever. Your life won't revolve around a relationship and neither should your visualizations.
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Posted by jensherratt 7/12/2017 10:22 am | #5 |
If you can't stop thinking about him, then its because he's thinking about you too.
He clearly has resistance and is fearful of showing his true emotions. Deep down, he wants you too.
Desire works both ways.This is the top statement on this forum that makes me cringe. Desire and obsession are totally different things. Often times resistance to obsession is because they're repellelled. Obsession is not a good thing and shouldn't be encouraged or written off. I have no idea where forum members keep reading this nonsense about obsession being a good thing, but it's not. Quite the opposite. People with healthy inner-relationships (self-love, self-worth, self-esteem) don't have unhealthy thoughts and ideas haunting them about a specific person. Obsession is you telling you to step back and refocus.
Steps to take and why...
No contact. A person can't miss you if you're always available. Moreover, a person doesn't want to be harassed (I'm not implying this is happening here, but people seem to think obsession is a great thing so I'm including that).
Self-love: This is the most fundamental thing. No one wants the responsibility of loving someone because they refuse to love themselves. Constant reassurance and neediness aren't sexy. The more you love yourself, the more everything works out in your life. Take up hobbies. Make new goals that have nothing to do with your relationship. One of two things will happen: Either you will start vibrating so high that you don't want your POI (I didn't believe this could happen, but it happened to me) or you vibrate so high that they are attracted to you. Either way, YOU have control of the situation instead of the situation controlling you.
Visualizing and RS: These are the last things you should be doing. People spend hours every day doing this and you just don't need to do all that. I've never read a book of techniques that says to devote your life to this. Typically, manifesting a specific person should account for about 20% of your manifestation and visualizing work. The rest of the time you should be working on yourself, your career, you interests, whatever. Your life won't revolve around a relationship and neither should your visualizations.
I never said obsession was a good thing. I've also said before that desire and obsession are different.
Desire is a two way street and obsession is only on the half of the obsesser
Last edited by jensherratt (7/12/2017 10:24 am)
We recieve exactly what we expect to recieve. - John Holland.
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Posted by 80saeaak 7/12/2017 10:41 am | #6 |
If you can't stop thinking about him, then its because he's thinking about you too.
He clearly has resistance and is fearful of showing his true emotions. Deep down, he wants you too.
Desire works both ways.This is the top statement on this forum that makes me cringe. Desire and obsession are totally different things. Often times resistance to obsession is because they're repellelled. Obsession is not a good thing and shouldn't be encouraged or written off. I have no idea where forum members keep reading this nonsense about obsession being a good thing, but it's not. Quite the opposite. People with healthy inner-relationships (self-love, self-worth, self-esteem) don't have unhealthy thoughts and ideas haunting them about a specific person. Obsession is you telling you to step back and refocus.
Steps to take and why...
No contact. A person can't miss you if you're always available. Moreover, a person doesn't want to be harassed (I'm not implying this is happening here, but people seem to think obsession is a great thing so I'm including that).
Self-love: This is the most fundamental thing. No one wants the responsibility of loving someone because they refuse to love themselves. Constant reassurance and neediness aren't sexy. The more you love yourself, the more everything works out in your life. Take up hobbies. Make new goals that have nothing to do with your relationship. One of two things will happen: Either you will start vibrating so high that you don't want your POI (I didn't believe this could happen, but it happened to me) or you vibrate so high that they are attracted to you. Either way, YOU have control of the situation instead of the situation controlling you.
Visualizing and RS: These are the last things you should be doing. People spend hours every day doing this and you just don't need to do all that. I've never read a book of techniques that says to devote your life to this. Typically, manifesting a specific person should account for about 20% of your manifestation and visualizing work. The rest of the time you should be working on yourself, your career, you interests, whatever. Your life won't revolve around a relationship and neither should your visualizations.
I never said obsession was a good thing. I've also said before that desire and obsession are different.
Desire is a two way street and obsession is only on the half of the obsesser
Okay. I misunderstood. I don't think she's simply desiring him. She seems desperate to be with him is why I said that. Sorry about that. 😁
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Posted by Denimchicken 7/12/2017 11:18 am | #7 |
I don't think desire always works both ways and like 80s, I feel very uncomfortable when I read that and felt uncomfortable when Veronica said it it one of her videos.
Sometimes it works both ways but it doesn't always. If it did, stalkers wouldn't exist and they do.
I'd not contact him at all and let him come to you. He will if there is desire from both sides.
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Posted by jensherratt 7/12/2017 11:35 am | #8 |
I don't think desire always works both ways and like 80s, I feel very uncomfortable when I read that and felt uncomfortable when Veronica said it it one of her videos.
Sometimes it works both ways but it doesn't always. If it did, stalkers wouldn't exist and they do.
I'd not contact him at all and let him come to you. He will if there is desire from both sides.
DESIRE works both ways.
OBSESSION doesn't.
Stalkers don't desire. They obsess.
If you don't wanna believe it then that's up to you but I do believe it and I always will.
People have to understand the difference between desire and obsession.
We recieve exactly what we expect to recieve. - John Holland.
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Posted by Dan2015 7/12/2017 12:01 pm | #9 |
Yeah. Obsession is a horrible thing. I don't know how to explain it, but you can tell when someone/yourself is obsessed or not. Plus when you're obsessed you're like miserable when you don't talk to the person
It's interesting how everyone has their own views when it comes to loa, some believe desire is a two way street Others believe Theresa limitations on loa. Others believe desire isn't always two way. Etc. it's interesting, just like religion or whatever. You just have to be headstrong in your beliefs. But I could see why the conflicting beliefs would be confusing to new people
I honestly think we can have anything we want, if we truly believe it and are confident about it while not being obsessed and miserable about it. I mean. Just look at Donald Trump. Most people hate him. And I'm certainly not a fan. But he set out a desire and nobody believed he could be president and he became president
I think Jim Carey also used loa to become rich.
I feel like the problem is. Most people with loa don't know the difference between desire and obsession. A lot of people will want something but feel miserable if they don't have it. Obviously that doesn't help your manifesting. Plus, I think a lot of people will want something(especially a specific person) but not believe at all that it's possible
So to counter this, they end up forcing things and basically stalking,etc and pushing the person further away
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Posted by 80saeaak 7/12/2017 12:10 pm | #10 |
Right now I'm trying to attract a specific person. We have mutual friends and interests, I think he's absolutely gorgeous, and I'd like to manifest him into my life. Here's the thing: We've never met. We've never crossed paths. We are total strangers. I desire him, but he can't possibly desire me because he doesn't know I exist (as far as I know). It can't always be mutual. I've had many men desire and pursue me and I've had absolutely no interest in a relationship, sex, or even a friendship. It simply doesn't work that way. I know people like to think "I want him so he has to want me, too", but you can't just go to that as a default. That's just not how it works.
Beliefs are good and very important, but they can be flawed. There are so many gray areas in LOA. Manifesting specific people/relationships (as opposed to manifesting money, jobs, vacations, etc) seem(s) to be the grayest area. There's no telling how exactly it works.
