If you are able to direct your focus properly, yes. But as long as you feel her as your ex, nothing will ever change, because that's where your focus is.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise