Listen, my selflove is good. Trust me on that one. Because of selflove i've made a lot of progress in my life already.
And even Agnes Vivarelli, the queen of selflove (in my opinion), says that you should still put SOME focus on your desire. 75% focus on you, 25% on your desire. You really need both.
And yes i know about Neville, listened to a lot of his stuff already. He's amazing indeed.