I was asked about our influence on others so would like to talk a little about the influencing effect we have on those around us, including a specific person.  Please chime in.  

So, I'm talking about how what we think about others is reflected in their behaviour when they're with us. Our vibration affects their thinking/behaviour towards us. A bit like how the whole RS works about how we can influence anothers thoughts about the relationship. This is why we often read here that it doesn't matter what your SP is saying now or has said in the past because your attitude and thinking about the situation is what will change it (and this will change their behaviour/thoughts about it too).

I've been watching hicks videos again and Abe was saying that as we focus on the positive aspects of another, then this is what will show up for us in our experience with them. So, therefore its important not to have any criticism/condemnation in us. So, ONLY focus on everything that you love about your SP and that means not thinking about the past or anything they're saying now that doesn't fit in with your ideal.   It does take practise but you get better at it. That is why people 'script' in the present tense or past tense, but in a positive way. You want to ONLY focus on the positive aspects of the relationship or person, period.  And add in feeling too, whenever you do this.  And this is good practise if you go into a new relationship as well, praise them, compliment them!  Look at them through the eyes of SOURCE.  We have to ignore ANYTHING contradictory to how we want it to be. We have to give up criticism, of self and others.   And, we get more of what we focus on, right?  So, just keep your thoughts/feelings on all the good things in yourself, your person and the relationship you desire to have with them and that is what will materialise for you.  You are the creator. You are the good (God) and so are they.  If we can keep our focus on only what we wish to create as much as possible we will see more good manifest for us, not only in our relationships but in all aspects of our lives.  Energy flows where attention goes.  So, what you give your 'attention' to will manifest.  It's quite a responsibility but its amazing when you finally realize you have the power to direct your attention/thoughts onto whatever you want to show up for you, its up to you to create it the way you wish. Go to it!