When did you decide that you'd failed? It sounds like you'd set yourself a time limit, 'by today', which put the pressure on, which also could have then made you try to force results, and force doesn't work. Neville said to live in the end and persist until your desire manifested, not to give up after 6 months or any other period of time (unless you change your mind, of course). I've personally had many manifestations that were virtually instant or took hours or days and also things that took years, as well as times in between.

If you're trying to manifest something else smaller, other than the SP, choose something you think would be easy and achievable so you can have success with that and gain confidence.

You've said you've read a lot of Neville and have been applying it, but do you really understand it? You might be surprised how many people think they're living in the end, and it turns out they haven't been at all. When you live in the end, you think and feel from the standpoint of already having your desire now, not think that you are going to have it by some future time. Is your SP there with you now in your mind? Are you hearing her say what you want to hear her say? Are you interacting with her like you would if you were together? It has to happen in your mind first before it can get pushed out into the external world.


This is not the time to worry about the law of reversed effort. You can't say or write affirmations or do anything else of your preference to reprogram your mind too much. Virtually everybody has some limited thinking due to their upbringing or life experiences that needs to be worked on. If you want to change a situation, a positive mental diet can't be just part of the time and swing back and forth like a pendulum between that and negative. Your SP ghosting you is feedback that you've got some sort of block.It could be any number of things, and it might not be about her specifically. Any negative beliefs about relationships, self worth, or not being good enough to have what you want are just a few possible examples.

I am putting you a link to a compilation of Neville SP success stories below. A couple of them are particularly good at explaining exactly what they did and didn't do to get their desired results. Also, there is a youtube channel called create your future that specialises in SPs and has some great coaches like Katie, Ani, Megan, and Erika, and there are also others. If I needed coaching, I'd choose one of them, probably Katie. It could help you just to listen to them. I prefer listening to Neville, but I sometimes listen to them as well.


https://drive.google.com/file/d/11jZktFf2jeRU5KzlhoejjwT4v1ikYn_n/view

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The subconscious mind has to accept something as true before it will happen externally. A good book on that subject is The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy.

I don't do social media myself and for many people, if not all, who want to manifest a relationship with an SP or ex, it would be better for them if they avoided it completely. I have seen it so many times that they are constantly checking on somebody's social media, probably to see if anything has changed in the last 5 minutes since they visualised or said some affirmations, and they would get very upset at photos and things that are written there. Never mind that a lot of it is bogus. It's not been called Fakebook without reason. They torture themselves with this sort of thing and wonder why they don't make any progress, dwelling on a third party like that's a permanent thing that can't be changed, for example..

I have had many people ask for my help, but the vast majority of them could not tear themselves away from social media and seeing things they didn't want to see, tormented themselves with it, couldn't do the work because of so much focus on what they didn't want, and gave up, which is quite sad because the few people who listened succeeded.

In Neville's day there obviously wasn't any internet, social media, or any of the other distractions of modern technology, and I do believe that people were more successful back then. They just did the work and didn't keep looking for more and more techniques to try, and they especially didn't have all of the forums to read all of the negativity and how hopeless and desperate other people felt and about all of their doubts and fears, etc.

The first book I ever read on this subject was The Magic of Believing by Claude Bristol when I was 15 years old and there weren't any of those distractions. He doesn't take it as far as Neville, but it's still a great book, and I had amazing, magical results just by copying what he said he did in ways that were meaningful to me. I recommend this book for people who may not quite be ready for Neville. When I first discovered Neville I thought he was well over the top until I realised how right he was.

Persistence is very important and so is having faith. It does take varying periods of time to manifest various things, and comparing yourself or your results with somebody else or their results is not a productive thing to do. One person's results have nothing to do with anybody else's, so don't let it discourage you. It's not a race.

I was going to suggest taking a break for a bit. It doesn't have to be a long one, but it can really help.

That's very kind of you to say that. Thank you.

The object of any method or 'technique' is to impress your subconscious mind with the belief that you have your desire now. This has to happen before your desire is outpictured on the screen of space, meaning it becomes a fact in your external experience, sometimes called the 3D. The subconscious cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined. Persistence is extremely important. So is repetition. If you are not having results, you may want to try something different to try to convince your subconscious. You may not have to. You may just need more persistence and repetition.

You made an earlier comment about not wanting to overdo affirmations and intentions due to the law of reversed effort. That has nothing to do with this. You cannot overdo them. You don't have to believe them, they are just another method to use to programme your subconscious mind, and maybe that is something you need to do more of before you give up. Put your focus and concentration on each one as you read or say them. Don't rush through them. Say them like you mean them.

I find it very helpful to write letters to myself from a person, it doesn't have to be an SP, having the person tell me everything I want to hear from them, and then reading the letter over and over again. I usually read it once through 3 times a day, focussing on it as with affirmations, but you could do it more. I also have inner conversations with a person, anyone, it doesn't have to be an SP. Time shouldn't even cross your mind. Time doesn't matter, and it is not helpful to think of how much time has passed. It takes as long as it takes, and nobody knows how long that will be.

Also, your username is in conflict with your goal, and I couldn't help but notice that when I first saw your earlier post.  It's a negative thing to call yourself and could be having a negative psychological impact on you that you don't even realise. You're manifesting 24/7 anyway, so you might as well focus on what you want. However, you can give up if you want to, but I don't think you came back here to announce that you were giving up.

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