Do you want to be friends? Or do you want a relationship and think being friends will lead to that? Firstly be 100% honest with yourself.

PrettyFlamingo --- No no, Sincerely I just want to be friends, nothing more.

Cynthia--- Thank You, I appreciate it so much.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

First, decide what it is you really want. Don't limit yourself to what you think it is possible for you to have. Then, in your imagination, go straight to the end result you want and think from the standpoint of already having your desire. Take no outward action to try to manipulate the situation directly. Have faith, persevere, and be patient.

I'm leaving you a few links below to listen to that will explain all of this and are a good introduction to Neville's teachings.

Neville Goddard - Mental Diets

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KnPAsGiQyiI

Neville - The Secret of Imagining

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YccI-t1yojk&t=9s

Neville - How to use your Imagination

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bKS_QIPet-k&t=90s

You took the words right out of my mouth! This was the kind of thing I was going to say once I had found out whether Kevin wanted a romantic relationship and was using friendship as a smokescreen for it, which he's replied to.

As usual, brilliant advice

Thanks, PF! 

Whatever type of relationship he wants, as I'm sure you know, it is the same principle to be applied, but we have often seen here what you asked him about from other people - wanting more than friendship but perhaps thinking they would start with that, maybe because they don't believe they could have more. However, for a number of reasons, they would be much better off living in the end of what their true desire is right from the beginning, as I'm sure you also know.
 

The videos won't do anything by themselves.  As Neville said, we are the operant power. It doesn't operate itself. The object is to apply what is taught in those videos in a way that is meaningful to you consistently, with faith that your imaginal acts are creative of facts, because they are, and with patience and perseverance. Time doesn't matter, distance doesn't matter. It takes as long as it takes for each individual manifestation, like gestation periods for different animals and people are different, and nobody knows how long it will take. It is like planting seeds, but choosing the ones you want.

Just the other day I read a comment from somebody who was together with somebody else as a couple, and they had had absolutely no communication with each other for 10 years before that happened. I know somebody personally who had married somebody else because he incorrectly thought the love of his life had somebody else herself, and 30 years later found her again and married her a bit more than 2 years ago. I had a male friend with whom I'd had no contact for about that same period of time, and we've since reconnected. There was a lady who went to Neville's lectures who wanted to go to Egypt and after 7 years was offered a free trip that included going there. These may not be relevant to what your desire is, but I mention them because of the length of time involved that did not matter to the desired end result eventually occurring.This does not mean it has to take a long time or that it will take you 7, 10, or 30 years, but that persevering paid off for those who didn't give up too soon and too easily.

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