You told us three times in this post that he is more sexual than loving. Chances are that you repeat it in your thoughts even more often. Stop that. That's the very thing that create it. You can't look at reality and expect it to change. You have to look inwardly for what you want and focus on that.

Meg2222 wrote:

What If I don't realise I am doing it though? How can I change my subconscious to not think like that, I don't think its just him I think i think it with all men. If its an actual emotional problem from my past how can I confront it and beat it?

I like affirmations. I repeat to my self "_____ is madly in love with ME!" and I feel that way. It is all about reprogramming your subconscious to support you rather than to always be in your protective subconscious and replaying those harmful stories. What you give attention to is what you will get. So if you continue to give attention to only being a sexual partner with him that is all you will get. If you give attention to being his loving girlfriend, he will be your loving boyfriend. 

Make sure that you fully feel deserving of having the relationship you want with him, and that you have a lot of love and respect for yourself. A guy who constantly only wants sex from you is lacking in respect for you in my opinion, and he can only reflect how you feel about yourself. So I suggest that you truly look at how you're viewing yourself in addition to the other advice given to you