Shy wrote:

I need some good advice to attract a phonecall especially from my guy or to break NC because for months he has not contacted me. I've been visualising and RSng him too.

Hi Shy,

I don't mean to be rude here but I don't see the point in attracting a phone call or breaking NC.

If you're looking at all the months that has passed and feel a need to have him back, it could just make it worse.

Wouldn't it be more efficient to just keep visualizing and getting into the feelings of confidence, love, and peace, not to force anything, but to enjoy those feelings?

Wouldn't it be better to take your time being single to feel better, irregardless of whether he's here or not?

If you think and feel from the end goal of the love and happiness you seek, feeling those feelings now, wouldn't that help go from need to having (peace)? And if you believe you and him will get back together, isn't that belief enough?

Maybe he might send a letter or an email or a text, maybe you might meet up somewhere, or maybe you might even call him. But focusing on the how (like a phone call) tends to make us anxious and doubtful, so focus on something that feels better (like the end goal of actually being happy and feeling love). Everything else has a way of falling in place.

Eh, just my opinion anyway.
 

big_blue wrote:

Cherished wrote:

It all comes down to your resistance. And I KNOW it's frustrating to hear that. But anyone who has heel doing this for a while and still has yet to hear from their love is resisting that energy in some way..

The MOST frustrating thing! I've been using LOA to get my guy back since the end of December and so far I've been seeing signs (or what I take as signs) so I'm hopeful that it means he's coming! Don't know how long its taken some other to get their person.. but DAMN... resistance... what am I resisting?!!
 

 
Frustration is resistance in and of itself.. 😁

No, you don't even need patience. Patience means waiting, which in itself attracts more waiting. What you have to develop intead is expectation. Instead of trying to attract, you need to switch it up into expectation mode. It's done. They are yours. Full stop. Feel the difference?

It depends what you mean by waiting. If you're happily going about your life, having a great time with the expectation that soon your life will come back begging for reconciliation, then you're gold! If you're waiting and yearning and missing them and wondering and stalking- those behaviours are not at all conducive in attracting the circumstances you want. Like attracts like. So an abundant, joyful life being lived out will attract more joy and abundance. And a life of misery or sadness will only attract more of the same.

Cherished wrote:

It all comes down to your resistance.  And I KNOW it's frustrating to hear that.  But anyone who has heel doing this for a while and still has yet to hear from their love is resisting that energy in some way. 

Try to find relief in that - Yay,  I just have to clean this upmarket little more and BOOM-in comes my love!!!! Because it's true.  Now the tricky part is to find the trigger- what is it that keeps you back subconsciously? We need to grab those resistant thoughts and try to soften them. If you were completely free, happy, joyous, living in the flow of alignment, loving yourself and adoring the magic around you- I PROMISE your love would be right there with you. You are that powerful, but you have to release all of the resistance that holds you back.

I know this has been answered by you a lot but how can you best let go of this resistance? Actionable step?