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happygirl · 12/21/2015 7:09 am

so today I got completely gmad at my guy, i guess it doesnt matter why but something he does time to time and it starts to get on my nerves
the thing is its been quite few years now since we ended it
you know i was seeing the signs lately so i am now confused what is going on

i feel like the pattern is being repeated here, NC, then he says i miss you, then i still ignore him, then we start to talk, then he says or does something which proves to me he is not really thinking of coming back to me or he does something which he may mean in a nice way but it makes me angry, i shut him completely and go to NC and never want to talk to him again, then i start to date, then he again out of the blue says miss you and i get hopeful i guess and it repeats till i realize that this is not the way its gonna work for me

you see i am very stubborn and i know it may be wrong, but i dont see point in listening to hearing i miss you every two months when i dont see any action behind it, the action is the other way, away from me

i may do it in a wrong way but i want full package, i want him to be back and fully committed or i rather want new guy

with more confidence i get the more i think like either you realize what you missed and you do something dramatic to show me you want me and i am worth it or just move on and get lost

what do you think guys? what am i missing? where is it going wrong way?

i in a way feel this is how i should have been from the beginning and just let it be, i do believe that if the guy truly wants you then he would do anything to be with you, and knowing this one, i know he would jump anywhere if he wanted to be with me, maybe that is also why it sort of feels like he doesnt value me if he does less than the jumping

i am today very angry and sent him many angry emails where i again finished all the communication and even though i calmed down a bit i still feel that this is it, that yes i do want him but yes he has to show me he wants me back otherwise its not good to communicate with him or anything

i sometimes feel like i m helping him and that i really dont want
you can shoot at me any opinions

sorry if its not the positive message

happygirl · 12/21/2015 8:44 am

I think i know the answer.

It will happen till it doesnt make me angry any more, it is the lesson I need to learn
so the pattern which is happening is because i need to learn to ignore it or better said dont take it as a bad thing at all

its just happening so I can learn and so that nothing can rock me as cherished said in another post

i think that is the only explanation to that happening all over again all the time

barbidoll · 12/21/2015 12:06 pm

Brava!! you figured it out which means you are learning but, when you are angry don't send angry emails it's defeating your purpose when you get mad count to 10 take deep breaths and try to meditate or better yet visualize a better conversation I know and understand I realize my anger at the situation or whatever else I have manifested that I don't want anger feeds it

barbidoll · 12/21/2015 12:07 pm

I have been in a terrible place for a long time too but finally I learned about LOA so I know I can change anything

happygirl · 12/21/2015 12:35 pm

thank you barbidoll :-)

I have known LOA for ten years now :-( but still get this reaction
when i am really angry as i was today it overtakes me and that is not good plus i think it was really in me for some time as many times i wanted to say those things but pushed it back and now it all burst out
i spoke to Veronica and even though its till there i feel better
i can change lots of things but when it comes to this person there is lots of resistance somehow, need to work on it more at least so it doesnt influence me like that as i dont like to be taken the energy away
and that is my fault and my responsibility

Jenny · 12/21/2015 2:09 pm

I'm gonna be honest in my opinion he doesn't do anything because he knows he only needs to say "I miss you" to make you wanna be with him again. It's male psychology. Check this story
https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=148165

barbidoll · 12/21/2015 2:16 pm

but remember passion is related to volatile feelings wow 10 years I have only began to study it in the past few months vent to me when you get angry get it out and keep going forward I understand people who set you off I have them in my life too so I get it. I know there are trigger words people use that just set you off bring back something upsetting or just plain make you mad and that we are here because we want something wonderful to happen and we get a bit frustrated Remember I am here for you and soon you really will be that Happy Girl all the time

happygirl · 12/21/2015 3:20 pm

Jenny you are very right :-)
I feel that too, very often i stopped all the communication because i realize that he doesnt really value me, then i told myself after few months of ignoring him that i shouldnt stop talking completely so i started to reply slowly to something he said three months ago and then it started again, etc.
you are right i should never talk to him again unless he says something like he wants me back cause this is so easy for him the way it is, and he got used to that sooner or later i do reply to his silly i miss you
thank you for your kind and open opinion
and for the article :-) i appreciate it

happygirl · 12/21/2015 3:26 pm

barbidoll yes, i attracted lots of things including him many years back :-)
yes, it used to be my mother a lot who had that power over me, now she doesnt and that pisses her off even more so we are not on very good terms, even though i do love her but somehow she cant handle that i dont react to her anymore
and for some reason he has that too, he always had but after we ended it, it seems like many things he does make me really go off like that, very often i feel like he never listens what i say and then his reactions are like if an alien is talking :-) but i need to refocus and see what i want instead of focusing on the opposite all the time :-)
thank you so much for your support barbidoll
I feel back on track at least when it comes back on track with my peace and my own power, and that is a good start i guess :-)
i want to have lovely Xmas as it is the best time of the year so will focus on the xmas tree, nice dinner, nice evening, nice time and all the magic around it :-)that should help really
i always felt there is something magical to xmas like if your dreams come true so easily, at least few of them do, always

happygirl · 12/21/2015 3:30 pm

oh BTW the thing is yes i am on track with LOA for 10 years but I attracted really the life i wanted many years back, everything, car, company, salary, guy, lifestyle, all of that

but then i went back to my old me, and the selfsabotage started till it destroyed all in my life, but truly all of it
so then it came to the time when i nearly lost my sanity
then i remembered the Secret and started all again and this time i told myself i will do anything to get back on track and never let myself to go so deep again
and i have to say a lot have changed for me, i slowly started to get all i wanted and even more than i ever dreamt of, apart from this one thing, probably because there is the most resistance
but anyway, good thing is that even though sometimes i feel down, sad, angry or anything it takes me max few hours and i am my Happy girl self again and that i love about the whole journey, that i learnt how to get up and keep walking no matter if it means i am walking alone or with the one i want but am walking
which wasnt like that in the past
so yes, i think now things will get better whatever that means

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