I think we would think about it but each time we would think about it, we would feel at peace, happy, joyful and grateful and that is the difference.
As if we think about our desire with gratitude and sense of peace and calm and happiness then we are attracting it (we feel like if we had it already so we dont worry and are just happy)
but usually people feel the lack of that desire so they think of it and they worry, are stressed, depressed, anxious as they feel the desire is not here.

So maybe we would think about our desire less but we would think about it as it would be already in our reality and if you have something in your reality then you think about it obviously as you see it all the time :-)
so I think what he meant was you dont worry, you are relaxed and calm as you feel you have it anyway and if you have something already then you are just grateful and full of joy

Neville is brilliant and he was great manifester if that word exists :-) he felt it so much real that he was relaxed about it as in his eyes and feelings it was already there so he didnt worry what so ever

hope that helps :-)

Last edited by happygirl (12/19/2015 2:00 pm)

Thanks happygirl! That makes so much sense. I like how you said that if we had our person then we wouldn't desire them as much because we would have them.

I was talking to a friend about Neville and she said she can't stop thinking about her guy and she feels as if she is obsessed with what he's doing on social media etc. I told her she is holding onto a lot of fear and doubt. I'm going to send a screen shot of your reply. Thanks!

Cherished wrote:

This is an Abe quote.. "A woman, one day, said, "Abraham, I don't think you care if my lover ever comes to me. I think you want me to envision him so clearly that in my mind's eye, he is real -- so real, that it doesn't matter that he's not really there." And we said, that's exactly right. We know when she feels him in that way, the pain will be gone from her, and the Life Force will flow through her, and all of her goals will be achieved. And we also know, then he must come. But it is not about him coming. It is about him being a goal that is reason for her to focus, that causes Life Force to flow through her. It is about the Life Force flowing through her."

Thanks for this! Can you explain this:

"It's about him being a goal that is the reason for her to focus"

Thanks

Cherished wrote:

So she was using him as her focus to get happy, not to get HIM.. Can you feel the difference? In focussing on him with love and appreciation but without need or lack at all, she has tapped into the correct energy. She decided to simply love him, because that kept her firmly in the vortex.

this makes perfect sense! i haven't thought about it like this but it's actually helped clear a bit up for me. i think this is easier to do once we fine-tune our vibration and are feeling better most of the time because then we realize, we don't really need/want him, but the feeling of happiness and love said person provides. and just by loving/appreciating him and using him (in a positive way) to be happy, we're no longer attached to him and make our happiness more important than him coming back - if that makes sense haha