I deleted my reply from before, but I'm putting it back (and adding onto it) so it doesn't look like you're talking to yourself.

Anybody who has read my posts knows I am a big believer in Neville's teachings, and that's what I go by - law of assumption, living in the end of the wish fulfilled, imagining creates reality. It works for me. I was married for a long time to someone long before I ever heard of Neville by imagining I was married to him and wearing an imaginary wedding ring.

I don't know why you had dreams about the person. They come from the subconscious mind and could mean any number of things. Maybe you were feeling lonely. I'm not saying that's the case, just a possibility. Make sure you're not reading something into this and making it more than it might be just because you started dreaming about him.Going by what you've said, you were the one who sought him out. He doesn't sound that interested. However, that isn't necessarily the case, and that doesn't matter anyway because that can be changed, and there's nothing that's meant to be or not. You can decide that for yourself. Before you disrupt your life in some huge way over this person, be sure of what you want and then live in the end of having it. Whatever your desire is, as it is the same principle for anything, create it all in your imagination in as much detail as possible, have faith in your imaginal acts, be patient and persistent, and let the world change around you.

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If you decide you really want a relationship with this person, don't give up. You can make a part of it that he moves to LA if that's what you want. Apart from not knowing what to do, the main things I've seen on this forum over and over that make people fail are a lack of faith, lack of persistence, and lack of patience. I'm probably too patient, if there is such a thing. I had to learn that from a young age, and I'm the most persistent person I've ever known.

Below are 2 of Neville's recordings, short versions, The Secret of Imagining and Mental Diets, which are a good introduction.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=l21MrsmG7v4

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KnPAsGiQyiI

Last edited by Cynthia (9/04/2019 12:45 am)

You're welcome. Before I married my now former husband we were living about 5,000 miles apart in different countries and were writing to each other by snail mail probably about once each a month, and we probably talked briefly on the phone a couple of times, so it was really not much more than a pen friendship to begin with. I had left London before that and was planning to move back but had nowhere to stay. He had invited me to visit him, so that gave me somewhere to stay, at least temporarily, Before too long, I think it was 5 or 6 weeks after I arrived, he asked me to marry him, which I did a few months later. I'm not quite sure how to put this because it might sound contradictory. I sort of looked upon it as a visit with no commitment of any kind to stay or marry him so as to let things develop naturally once I'd got there and could have left at any time but had already done all the imaginal work of being married to him before I got there so everything just fell into place. We were married for a long time, but not now. With my current SP, almost anything that could be viewed as an obstacle is a part of the current situation, and I've been called 'delusional' by a non-believer about it, which I take as a compliment.

Anita wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

You're welcome. Before I married my now former husband we were living about 5,000 miles apart in different countries and were writing to each other by snail mail probably about once each a month, and we probably talked briefly on the phone a couple of times, so it was really not much more than a pen friendship to begin with. I had left London before that and was planning to move back but had nowhere to stay. He had invited me to visit him, so that gave me somewhere to stay, at least temporarily, Before too long, I think it was 5 or 6 weeks after I arrived, he asked me to marry him, which I did a few months later. I'm not quite sure how to put this because it might sound contradictory. I sort of looked upon it as a visit with no commitment of any kind to stay or marry him so as to let things develop naturally once I'd got there and could have left at any time but had already done all the imaginal work of being married to him before I got there so everything just fell into place. We were married for a long time, but not now. With my current SP, almost anything that could be viewed as an obstacle is a part of the current situation, and I've been called 'delusional' by a non-believer about it, which I take as a compliment.

 

And what happened with   distance ? Did you just imagine you are married and you manifest it  and he started live in your country or you in his country?

 

I didn't even think about the distance.

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But I just want know how it was solved.  Where we lived together? In your or his country?

 

My experience or that of anybody else has absolutely no relevance to what you can achieve or not. What you are looking for is for reassurance. No amount of reassurance from me, or anybody, will convince you. You've got to convince yourself.