Rainflower wrote:

Just curious, I have noticed a few things with my SP that may suggest there is a third party involved (cannot check myself as we live in different countries), I have zero evidence but an overactive imagination and it bugs me!! 
(I know he was dating someone 8 months ago roughly but unsure if this is still the case)

How do I stop this or stop this from happening? Thank you!

 
Since imagining creates reality, and you don't want a third party involved, if you want a relationship with your SP, you should be living in the end of having that relationship and not putting any mental energy into there being a third party. Your imaginal activity should only be focussed on what you want, not what you don't want.

Rainflower wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Rainflower wrote:

Just curious, I have noticed a few things with my SP that may suggest there is a third party involved (cannot check myself as we live in different countries), I have zero evidence but an overactive imagination and it bugs me!! 
(I know he was dating someone 8 months ago roughly but unsure if this is still the case)

How do I stop this or stop this from happening? Thank you!

 
Since imagining creates reality, and you don't want a third party involved, if you want a relationship with your SP, you should be living in the end of having that relationship and not putting any mental energy into there being a third party. Your imaginal activity should only be focussed on what you want, not what you don't want.

yes, that's right and I feel I was the one who attracted the 3rd party 8 months ago.  Still I want to stop the thoughts from even entering my brain, how do I do that? Thanks
 

If you're living in the end, you will not include any 3rd party in that imagining. In day to day stuff going about your business, just change what you're thinking about (even in relation to the "SP" you talk about). Just think about something else.

Rainflower wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Rainflower wrote:

Just curious, I have noticed a few things with my SP that may suggest there is a third party involved (cannot check myself as we live in different countries), I have zero evidence but an overactive imagination and it bugs me!! 
(I know he was dating someone 8 months ago roughly but unsure if this is still the case)

How do I stop this or stop this from happening? Thank you!

 
Since imagining creates reality, and you don't want a third party involved, if you want a relationship with your SP, you should be living in the end of having that relationship and not putting any mental energy into there being a third party. Your imaginal activity should only be focussed on what you want, not what you don't want.

yes, that's right and I feel I was the one who attracted the 3rd party 8 months ago.  Still I want to stop the thoughts from even entering my brain, how do I do that? Thanks
 

 


You can train your mind to turn away from the undesirable and replace it with what you want. I've done it.  It was really hard to begin with. Some fool sent me a screenshot of something that he had to know I wouldn't want to see, I think it was about a month ago or so.  At first it was all I could think about, but I kept on imagining what I wanted instead of what I saw every time I thought of that screenshot, which might not even be true and doesn't matter if it is. It got easier and easier, and now I hardly ever think of it, and soon I won't think of it at all. Show your mind who's boss.

Rainflower wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Rainflower wrote:

yes, that's right and I feel I was the one who attracted the 3rd party 8 months ago.  Still I want to stop the thoughts from even entering my brain, how do I do that? Thanks
 

 


You can train your mind to turn away from the undesirable and replace it with what you want. I've done it. It was really hard to begin with. Some fool sent me a screenshot of something that he had to know I wouldn't want to see, I think it was about a month ago or so. At first it was all I could think about, but I kept on imagining what I wanted instead of what I saw every time I thought of that screenshot, which might not even be true and doesn't matter if it is. It got easier and easier, and now I hardly ever think of it, and soon I won't think of it at all. Show your mind who's boss.

I am sorry you had that screenshot to deal with. My guy is actually a master hider, so if he doesn't say it out right you won't know it. And given that all I know about him is online, not telling something is very easy. It's just that he is attending a convention in Australia for longer than I would expect him too and he has been "babysitting" some friends dog for a few months now and they both ping up to me as being suspicious when it might be utterly and completely innocent. Well the thoughts just started creeping in properly today, that's why I'm immediately reaching out to get some help!! 

 

Thanks, but the reason I made my comment was not to focus on the screenshot but to say what I did to get it out of my mind and just to focus on what I want.

It’s crazy what our minds can do honestly     One of the reasons why I try avoiding social media especially a SP(off topic but yeah). Cause I feel checking social media non stop you’re(people in general) are just looking for problems

Honestly. I’ve been where you are.    You start getting random thoughts of a 3rd party.  At first it’s not so bad.  But then it just multiplies     I’ve had times where regarding a SP I’ll manifest them having a 3rd party randomly. It’ll either be an ex, a new person, etc.  there was this time. Where I started thinking about a 3rd party(plus I saw screenshots of someone mentioning it).   And my SP said they were on a break   Cause they were away somewhere(I forgot where). 

In the past.  I would have gotten mad at them.  But lol it’s been multiple people and I manifested a 3rd party for all of them.  At the end of the day, it was all me.  I was the only common dominator and how I thought.   We can create anything but it can be good or bad    I feel like most people are better at attracting what they don’t ent opposed to what they do want. Is because in a weird way, we have more confidence in what we don’t want happening.    I feel like a lot of us grew up with the mindset. “Expect the worse but be ready for the best”. So we’ve been almost conditioned since birth to think negative things are going to happen

I mean. When we are younger, we don’t really listen to that. That’s why as kids we manifested a lot of amazing things, cause our imaginations were “allowed” to be “crazy”.  But as we get older.  We get into the habit of just assuming the worse is going to happen.   So we most likely visualize, think, etc even subconsciously that what we don’t want is going to take off

Honestly.  From the more I learned about creating our reality, etc.  I don’t even think we can blame a sp(though I’m sure Cynthia and others can say better than I can) for cheating, not being faithful,  3rd parties, etc. because a lot of times when we as people “think as if” we start imagining or thinking that we aren’t the only one in the picture, that they are cheating, etc.  so of course they end up cheating

I think a lot of people are afraid to use Neville’s method even loa people.  Because I feel that deep down to a lot of people. We expect the worse outcome for things.  So we get to prepare.  Or others just don’t want to do the work.   Honestly, whether relationships wise or in general. I’ve came to the conclusion.  What do we really have to lose to EXPECT the best? And KNOW we have it?   It might be a little delusional but it’s only “delusional” to people who feel it is.  Sometimes we have to “think outside the box” to create our reality and get lost in our own world.  Plus it’s fun. It’ll get us specifically what we want and also create so much more amazing things.    Speaking of “delusions”.  I remember listening to something where before Jim Carey made his first million.  He wrote a million dollar check to himself and said he was going to cash it in a year.   I mean, hell. Even look at Donald trump(hate him or love him) everyone thought he had no chance in hell to be president and he ended up becoming president.    It’s just so important to really believe in our manifesting also, when you visualize, etc you have to know it’s real    It’s funny how it feels the bad things take no effort to manifest whether it’s a 3rd party, a person not liking us, etc and those things manifest fast   But when it comes to good things. We doubt, worry, fear, etc if it’s going to happen    It just shows that we have to fully believe in our reality and then bam. It manifests


Sorry for this long thing.  I just ranted.   But there’s been a few times. Where id start thinking about a 3rd party and even focusing on it a lot.  And holy wow, they’d manifest quickly and feel like they’d stay around forever.   But when I just forgot about it or as Cynthia says focus on what I want.  They disappeared so fast and my SP was all about me lol

We really can’t serve two masters. We can’t serve the fears, the doubts, the worries, etc and also be all in on creating our reality, feeling as if, etc   And I learned being in the middle is at times even worse than being on the doubt side. Because it’ll be like a roller coaster.  Good stuff will happen.  Then bad stuff. Etc etc etc

So it’s really important as Cynthia says.  To be persistent. Etc. Of course there may be bad days. I mean we are human.  But stay strong in your beliefs and put the focus on whet you WANT     It really will manifest.  You just have to keep at it, it gets easier