Did it ever occur to you that he might not be able to drop everything to see you immediately? What if he has some things that he needs to take care of first so he can spend more time with you and give you more of his undivided attention when you do see each other? After what you said at the end about him wanting you to move to the states and share his life with him, I don't know why you're not feeling really happy. Isn't it what you wanted to have that relationship with him? It sounds like that's what he wants too.  I understand how you feel very keen to see him, but men can be different and may feel the need to get other things out of the way first. That doesn't mean they care any less. Don't spoil it for yourself by imagining all of the things you don't want. Assume things are just the way you want them to be.

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monarcopia wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Did it ever occur to you that he might not be able to drop everything to see you immediately? What if he has some things that he needs to take care of first so he can spend more time with you and give you more of his undivided attention when you do see each other? After what you said at the end about him wanting you to move to the states and share his life with him, I don't know why you're not feeling really happy. Isn't it what you wanted to have that relationship with him? It sounds like that's what he wants too. I understand how you feel very keen to see him, but men can be different and may feel the need to get other things out of the way first. That doesn't mean they care any less. Don't spoil it for yourself by imagining all of the things you don't want. Assume things are just the way you want them to be.

Hi,
Thank you so much for responding. Really appreciate it . Just to clarify , I don't actually expect my SP to drop everything for me or something like that. I mean, maybe on some level I would get the greater sense that he is really invested in the relationship if he took more initiative like getting the plane ticket price (like he said he would...he has also SAID a lot of things in the past with little follow through, which simply gave me the impression he was not that into me, which is fine). Also, my friends and family are against me getting back together with him, which does slightly complicate things but I am not angry or have any demands of him or expectations. We had a great connection but there were quite a few issues. Feel like he was emotionally abusive towards me ( I know I was needy and I,ve been dealing with that) but I wouldn't want to be subject to that again. And the last obstacle at least right now is that I don't have the money for a plane ticket. Cheers. Namaste.

 
I don't recall your saying any of this before. Listen to this and see what you think.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KnPAsGiQyiI

monarcopia wrote:

Exactly! This resonates perfectly. So true. Thank you Cynthia . 

 
It's very true. You're welcome.

monarcopia wrote:

At the time I was seeing my ex, I didn't have a job or any friends. That must be burdensome, I was aware of that and still understand why someone might want to run.  I changed my inner dialogue and my exterior world so I could give more love and he did come back. It did work but there still have been other challenges ( I know I am queen-of course not literally and I don't like to take advantage of people but just spiritually) but I see clearly that he is just not interested. And I am ok with that . We did have an AMAZING connection on some level. Really unexplainable but in the so called 'real world' it will probably not work and I am at peace with it. I wish him happiness. 

 
You've decided that he's not interested, presumably based on outward appearances and past experiences. If that's the way you want it, that's fine. If you really want to change that, you can. It's entirely up to you. It's your decision, not anybody else's.