Coffeeplease wrote:

Yesterday, my SP and I got into a HUGE fight, which was largely due to my residual anger about the breakup. He basically told me the same  fears that I had carried inside during our whole relationship: that “maybe there was something missing” or maybe I was more invested than he was. He hasn’t said these things when he broke up with me, but these were fears that I had as to the “real” reasons he broke up with me.

I guess I’m still shocked because I had purposely been very guarded  in this past relationship to AVOID any sort of idealism. I felt super guarded the whole time BECAUSE it felt too good to be true. I’m shocked because the things he claimed yesterday  was  not what I actually saw happening during our relationship, but he literally voiced almost word for word  all the fears I had secretly carried from prior relationships. He had been so loving and consistent in his actions in the past,, I felt like a delusional crazy person when he backpedaled and acted so cold.

Anyway, how do I overcome this self-limiting belief that LOA works for everyone else but not me? How can I trust? None of my exes in the past have ever come back. When I try to visualize, I feel like I’m lying to myself by “trying” to manifest. How do I pull myself out of replaying the pain from yesterday and shift to positive vibes without feeling like I’m suppressing?

 
This experience alone shows what a powerful creator you are, that your SP 'voiced almost word for word all the fears you had carried from prior relationships.' All of the fears you've had created this situation, as well as your belief that your relationship 'was too good to be true.' Now you just have to learn how to do it consciously. I didn't recommend studying Neville Goddard's teachings on conscious creation yesterday just for the fun of it. If you want to change this situation and consciously create your life instead of doing it unconsciously, forget all the other things you may have heard or read about  'the LOA', because a lot of it is a load of old rubbish and completely irrelevant to consciously creating anything, and study Neville's teachings. We're always creating our lives whether consciously or unconsciously, so we might as well learn to do it consciously and have the life and experiences we choose. What has happened in the past makes no difference to what it is possible to create now. Anyone can do this, including you. You just have to know how.

Last edited by Cynthia (9/20/2018 8:29 am)