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Hi guys!Β
IΒ think, IΒ really need some help. Let me shortly introduce you into my situation. I have been trying to attract my ex-boyfriend for some time. We hadn't had a contact for a long time, but finally, he texted me in March and he said he broke up with his girlfriend. I thought it was a good sign. Since that moment we were texting and meeting. At some point, this situation changed into friends with benefit relation.Β But he was always the person who initiated anything, meetings and texts I mean.Β Last week I decided I can ask him as well for our meeting. I texted him a few times about different dates of our meeting( each time he said no because he claimed he didn't have time). Also, I tried to talk with him like a normal friend and apart from asking about a meeting, I asked him about normal stuff, about his new work etc. nothing serious, just normal questions from a friend. He seemed not to enjoy these conversations,Β he answered only with one word or something like that. That was strange because a day before my initiated conversationΒ we had met and everything was okay. Anyway, during my asking him about a date of our meeting he told me he was going to the wedding this weekend that has just finished. On Saturday I have noticed he blocked me on messenger. I texted him yesterday why he did this. He told me he decided to block me on Saturday's morning because he didn't want me to write to him during this weekend and he was expecting me to contact him and he said that, in his opinion, my contacting him so often( 3 days in one week with just normal questions, seriously?) He also added that he lied about this wedding, he wanted to check my behaviour because he believed I would contact him and I didn't pass the test because I did contact him ( who wouldn't do that, when you notice that someone out of blue blocked you on messenger :o) He said that I am irritating, that I have started to behave strangely and he decided to '' cut me off irrevocably'', he doesn't want to have a contact with me. I have been trying to attract our getting back so I don't know why this has happened to me. What should I do? I did nothing special, just a few normal messages and after them, he made his crazy test and, again, he doesn't want to have a contact with me for good...Β Β
Could you help me, please?Β
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Have a think about this. He's behaving unkindly and by agreeing to what you call friends with benefits, which normally means the benefit is on one side only, you've given him an opportunity to treat you with disrespect. You've chased him and he says he's irritated. He's not been clear with you and you've probably thought keeping in touch will keep you in his mind. He also sounds controlling.
Do you want a guy who is half hearted, irritated and disrespectful, or do you want someone who loves you and only you?
Last edited by PrettyFlamingo (8/13/2018 2:06 am)
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Please don't think I'm telling you that you can't have this guy. What I am asking is to be clear that you want him. And to teach him how to treat you. Having wasted so much time and tears on disrespectful men when I was younger it's something I feel strongly about.
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Well I was thinking about it. When we were in a relationship he didn't act like this, he was a good boyfriend, he cared about me and he respected me. That's why I wanted to be again with him. However, this new version of him is disgusting and I don't to be his booty call anymore. I want him to respect me, I strongly believe he will regret it and he will apologise me. Someway I also believe I can attract again his old version. I guess it requires showing him that he can't treat me like that, as you claim. The only problem I see is that now we aren't in speaking terms so I can't directly say it. But I won't contact him, so I guess it will help me, I am going to attract also his apologies because I feel it will help.