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Heey everybody,
A short introduction story: My girlfriend dumped me on may 21st. I've been trying to get her back ever since. we were only officially together for 2 months and have been dating for 2 months prior. She later on listed a couple of reasons why she left. reasons being: My feelings for you are gone, you're not what im looking for (Not dominant enough, too boring, not as adventurous and i was childish according to her). Since the break-up there's been some arguments and fights and some nasty things. We talked things out a bit later on and got back on friendly terms, atleast so i thought.
Today she texted me saying "It's over between us, i'm not getting back together with you, deal with it".
And i wonder where i'm going wrong. I've been doing a lot of meditations (3 times a day, including the whispering technique, living in the end result, creating future memories, self love), saying affirmations, doing visualizations and living in the end result // acting as if.
Help?
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Well, your backstory doesn’t matter because it doesn’t matter what she’s said, you can still manifest a relationship with her no matter what.
Perhaps things haven’t changed because you are focused on current reality and “trying” to change things. Leave current reality alone. Accept it as it is and take your attention off of it. All you need to do is live in the end result. Feel like you have the relationship now. In that energy, you don’t have any more lack, because you already have what you want.
If she was yours RIGHT NOW, what would you be thinking? What would you be feeling? Thinking of future vacations with her? Marriage? Thinking and feeling from the perspective that you already have your desire is truly living in the end. And it’s all that is needed. Live in the end and don’t pay any attention to the past or to current reality until your desire manifests.
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@Fizzy
I have a question about living in the end though, a couple actually.
1) By living in the end, and thus thinking and feeling about her as already being mine, doesn't that mean she becomes my focus point? While i've heard that a specific person shouldn't be your focus point, you should be your focus point. It's a bit contradicting to me. Or i just don't really understand living in the end yet.
2) Do you (or anybody else) have tips on accepting current reality and leaving your thoughts out of it?
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Roy-LOA wrote:
@Fizzy
I have a question about living in the end though, a couple actually.
1) By living in the end, and thus thinking and feeling about her as already being mine, doesn't that mean she becomes my focus point? While i've heard that a specific person shouldn't be your focus point, you should be your focus point. It's a bit contradicting to me. Or i just don't really understand living in the end yet.
2) Do you (or anybody else) have tips on accepting current reality and leaving your thoughts out of it?
1) I would say no to this. Because if you are living in the end, you are changing yourself, right? You aren’t focusing on her and what she’s doing and you’re not saying you need her to do something to be happy. You are becoming happy on your own, by allowing yourself to experience the reality you want right now in your thoughts and feelings, which draws that reality to you. I firmly believe that if you desire something, that means you are meant to have it. To experience the reality where you do have it. I think living in the end is completely focusing on yourself.
2) Accepting the reality doesn’t mean you have to like it. It just means you stop fighting against it. Just let it be. And create the reality you prefer within yourself. It all starts with you. Reality is only a projection. You are the projector.