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So, where do I begin.
My lover (not ex, since words have power, remember) broke up with me a week ago over past hurts. He said he still loves me but needs to become a better person worthy of me. At that time thoughts have been plaguing my head like, what if he meets somebody else? Few days later, he met a girl in a movie through a mutual friend of his. I got so insecure over that and started thinking that it'd develop into something. He hung out with her, got insecure over that as well. Now he's watching a series with her that we used to enjoy but can't because of bad memories.
Yes, yes. I created all that. My fears created all that.
I need help with not creating what I DONT want. How do I stop these thoughts from creating my reality? How do I stop all this? I wanna nip this in the bud before it spirals out of control.
Anyone?
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nitori86 wrote:
So, where do I begin.
My lover (not ex, since words have power, remember) broke up with me a week ago over past hurts. He said he still loves me but needs to become a better person worthy of me. At that time thoughts have been plaguing my head like, what if he meets somebody else? Few days later, he met a girl in a movie through a mutual friend of his. I got so insecure over that and started thinking that it'd develop into something. He hung out with her, got insecure over that as well. Now he's watching a series with her that we used to enjoy but can't because of bad memories.
Yes, yes. I created all that. My fears created all that.
I need help with not creating what I DONT want. How do I stop these thoughts from creating my reality? How do I stop all this? I wanna nip this in the bud before it spirals out of control.
Anyone?
Well, you've answered your own question. You've imagined all of this into reality, so now reverse it and imagine having the relationship you want with your SP as if you have it right now. Stop thinking about anybody else being in the picture, and ignore anything that doesn't contribute to the relationship you desire with your SP.
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Cynthia wrote:
nitori86 wrote:
So, where do I begin.
My lover (not ex, since words have power, remember) broke up with me a week ago over past hurts. He said he still loves me but needs to become a better person worthy of me. At that time thoughts have been plaguing my head like, what if he meets somebody else? Few days later, he met a girl in a movie through a mutual friend of his. I got so insecure over that and started thinking that it'd develop into something. He hung out with her, got insecure over that as well. Now he's watching a series with her that we used to enjoy but can't because of bad memories.
Yes, yes. I created all that. My fears created all that.
I need help with not creating what I DONT want. How do I stop these thoughts from creating my reality? How do I stop all this? I wanna nip this in the bud before it spirals out of control.
Anyone?Well, you've answered your own question. You've imagined all of this into reality, so now reverse it and imagine having the relationship you want with your SP as if you have it right now. Stop thinking about anybody else being in the picture, and ignore anything that doesn't contribute to the relationship you desire with your SP.
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I know what I have to do, it's just... how do I stop these obsessive thoughts and nip them in the bud?
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nitori86 wrote:
Cynthia wrote:
nitori86 wrote:
So, where do I begin.
My lover (not ex, since words have power, remember) broke up with me a week ago over past hurts. He said he still loves me but needs to become a better person worthy of me. At that time thoughts have been plaguing my head like, what if he meets somebody else? Few days later, he met a girl in a movie through a mutual friend of his. I got so insecure over that and started thinking that it'd develop into something. He hung out with her, got insecure over that as well. Now he's watching a series with her that we used to enjoy but can't because of bad memories.
Yes, yes. I created all that. My fears created all that.
I need help with not creating what I DONT want. How do I stop these thoughts from creating my reality? How do I stop all this? I wanna nip this in the bud before it spirals out of control.
Anyone?Well, you've answered your own question. You've imagined all of this into reality, so now reverse it and imagine having the relationship you want with your SP as if you have it right now. Stop thinking about anybody else being in the picture, and ignore anything that doesn't contribute to the relationship you desire with your SP.
ΒI know what I have to do, it's just... how do I stop these obsessive thoughts and nip them in the bud?
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You have to train your mind to choose the thoughts you want to think. It's a discipline, and it gets easier with practice. You are the only thinker in your mind. You are the only one who can control your thoughts. I always recommend reading and/or listening to Neville Goddard. He'll tell you all you need to know about conscious creation and how imagination creates reality. Every time I need a reminder that's exactly what I do. His teachings and listening to him talk about them have helped me enormously.
It's only been a week since you broke up. That's nothing. There are loads of people on this forum who broke up months and years ago, so you're in a much better position than most of them.
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nitori86 wrote:
I know what I have to do, it's just... how do I stop these obsessive thoughts and nip them in the bud?
In addition to what Cynthia said, if you assume the state of having your desire (as Neville says), the thoughts you want to be thinking will naturally start to come up. Your thoughts alone donβt create your reality. What you feel and believe to be true does.
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