Drogon wrote:

Does it pay to keep trying with this girl or do I really just need to figure myself out first? Will I possibly find my way in the process?

What manifests is what you expect and believe. You said you already know what to do to manifest the relationship, so if you apply what you know, you will manifest what you want. However, if you have internal struggles and question your own self worth, this may bring you problems. For example you could manifest the relationship but then eventually manifest a break-up as well, because of your struggles. A lasting relationship requires you to have the belief that your partner won’t leave you. But if you are questioning your own value, then you could begin to believe that your partner questions it too. So, overall it is best to have yourself figured out first, just so you can stay more in control of your feelings and beliefs. But if you can manage to believe the relationship is yours right now, you can still manifest it.