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My question is basically already in the topic.
I donโt think my SP is with someone else since weโre back in contact and heโs mostly the one texting me first ( going very very slow tho and no real hints he wants to be back together with me) Still Iโm dealing a lot with the fear that someone might come in his life, especially that someone specific might come back into his life. I know this fear is attracting it and Iโve been working hard to let it go, but last night I kinda had a breakdown again, because I thought I saw proof that heโs dating someone new. My mind went all crazy and made up all kind of theories and I felt so miserable, that I just wanted to throw it all away. I got back up from that emotional down, knowing that it might have been for nothing. But now itโs like, I donโt know how to get rid of that fear anymore. everything Iโve been working towards seems to fall apart. Does anyone have suggestions or is in similar situation?
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What would it mean to you, if a third party were involved?
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I donโt know, I think it means to me that I would feel like Iโm losing him again, like he chooses someone over me
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I think that's already a lot closer to your real fear. I guess it's something like "I am not good enough". I would look at that instead of trying to get rid of the thoughts of the third party. The root of the problem isn't in the potential third party but in yourself. If you absolutely knew that he eventually will choose you, you would be pretty relaxed about a third party, because you knew it's just temporary for a very short period of time. That's where you want to get. So see it as a chance to look at your own issues and resolve them.
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That makes sense thank you so much Sanshi, I will work on it!
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I had the same fear so thanks for the question and thank you for the answer Sanshi, it makes total senseย xxx