Selfloveiskey wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Scarlet11 wrote:

Yeah, I think so.
​You should be a little bit distant and cold to him.
​Perhaps he thinks that you will let him come back to you no matter how many bad things he would do to you.
​He is confident that you will let him come back to you even though he had hurt you.
​Don't let him think that way.

 
Very bad advice, immature game playing, not what you do when you truly love somebody.

Yup very much agreed

Yeah no that was not the plan, but I do not think that me taking contact is the way to go. Especially since he broke up both times and I reacted very badly with crying and almost begging him to give it more time. 

Last edited by mb16 (3/19/2018 12:06 pm)

mb16 wrote:

Also, I blocked him everywhere, I don't know if this was the right choice? Last time, he blocked me on social medias and all that which caused me a lot of stress in always sitting and focusing on when he would unblock me. So this time, I wanted to do it first for my own peace of mind (he would probably have done it otherwise), was this wrong in trying to get him back? 

I personally think it's a very childish, immature thing to do, like doing tit for tat. If you don't want to be stressed or hurt by what he's doing on his social media, don't look. It's a bad idea to stalk him on social media anyway.

Last edited by Cynthia (3/19/2018 12:55 pm)

Don't you have any self-control? Just don't look. If you blocked him first and he tried to look at yours but couldn't because you'd blocked him first, it would look like you were rejecting him. I personally believe you should keep the channels of communication open if you want to have a relationship with the person and look like you're open to having a relationship with him.

mb16 wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Don't you have any self-control? Just don't look. If you blocked him first and he tried to look at yours but couldn't because you'd blocked him first, it would look like you were rejecting him. I personally believe you should keep the channels of communication open if you want to have a relationship with the person and look like you're open to having a relationship with him.

How would I be rejecting him when he was the one wanting the breakup? He has my number, if he wanted to reach out he would, it's not about him reaching out on social media. Me blocking him is a way for me to keep my vibrations high. I know him well enough to be sure that he would just block me as soon as I unblock him because he has told me in the past that it hurts him to see my pictures and activities on social media. 

I think no contact is a good way to go but not with malice intent. I think it's good to protect your vibe. I did no contact for awhile and when I got to a good place I would text or he would but the key there was having no expectations for anything. Like if I texted I needed to say ok I did and just go about my business . It's not the end of the world if he didn't text back . It's like things can still change and be working in the unseen. I think you have the right idea but there seems to be negative emotions behind it so I think that is what is turning others off. So yes no contact for awhile and if you want to block him and it feels good fine to but just no anger behind it or I guarantee he will block you right back . If you are doing it to protect you then it's fine. If there is no anger. I can see where some say it closes communication however when you are in a negative space the channel is closed anyway regardless of if you block them or then you or no one blocks. When you are in a higher vibe more aligned then communication can come or you can communicate and just open the doors. So it is always changing work on you and just focus on self love and getting yourself in a better place.

Cynthia wrote:

mb16 wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Don't you have any self-control? Just don't look. If you blocked him first and he tried to look at yours but couldn't because you'd blocked him first, it would look like you were rejecting him. I personally believe you should keep the channels of communication open if you want to have a relationship with the person and look like you're open to having a relationship with him.

How would I be rejecting him when he was the one wanting the breakup? He has my number, if he wanted to reach out he would, it's not about him reaching out on social media. Me blocking him is a way for me to keep my vibrations high. I know him well enough to be sure that he would just block me as soon as I unblock him because he has told me in the past that it hurts him to see my pictures and activities on social media. 

If you're worrying about these petty things, I don't think your 'vibrations are high'. If you want this person back, regardless of what he may have done or said in the past, I think you should be and look open to reconciling with him. Blocking him is not looking open, it's just going to create more of the same that you claim not to want, but if you don't see that, I don't know what else to say. It's not about whether he'd contact you through social media or not. So what if he blocks you? Be the bigger person. It has to start with one of you. It's not a good idea to be looking at his social media anyway, and you should have enough self-control not to look if it bothers you so much.
 

I understand what you mean, but social media doesn't work like that where I can decide to just not look. His pictures would come up everywhere even if I chose not to look, for example on the Instagram explore page. I will unblock after some time. Also, I never claimed my vibrations are high, but as an attempt to not keep them low, I need to not look at his page, which is easier said than done. 
 

Last edited by mb16 (3/19/2018 1:32 pm)