Thank you for this post dear  . I am new to this forum and the whole law of attraction concept but as i read more of it i get all the hope to make my life better .

I totally relate to what you say, Cherished, especially about the waiting.

I used to think that I was better at manifesting small things, but lately I've realized that I did also manifest a whole lot of big things, too. But the thing I noticed is that, with so many things I've manifested successfuly, I just sent out a strong, simple intention and then let it go with a feeling of confidence that I will eventually get what I have asked for. After that I more or less forgot about it, and later it manifested.

I remember for example years ago, my mom and I were sitting drinking tea in front of the fire, and I suggested writing out an ideal scene, plus a list of goals that we wanted to reach. Both of these exercises came from the book "Creative Visualization", which I had just read. We just sat talking happily about our ideal scenes, writing them out on paper, and then also writing out our goals that we wanted to manifest in the near, mid-term, and long-term future. It was all a lot of fun but we didn't take it seriously. I did, however, have a light hearted feeling of expectation that I would get at least some of the things I had asked for. My intention was to look over what I had written every day for a few moments, but in the end I just put everything away and forgot about it.

Then, some time later (maybe three or four years or so) I found the list and the ideal scene, and to my amazement I realized that almost everything had manifested. This was really astounding to me, since I had put almost no effort into it whatsoever, and had even for the most part, let it all slip from my mind. And these things weren't all small wishes - many were big things, like a house in a specific country, for example, money goals, and certain objects.

On the other hand, there was one thing not included in that ideal scene that was extremely important to me. I even felt at one point that my whole happiness depended on it. With that I hadn't put my intention away in a drawer and forgotten about it: I had consistently been visualizing like crazy and wishing and wanting for this to manifest (it wasn't an ex back situation, but it was a guy who I desperately wanted in my life). With that I felt endless longing,impatience, and I wondered "why oh why is this taking so long to manifest?". I also had doubts about how it could manifest, since being with this man  involved lots of obstacles that seemed hard for me to believe could be overcome. Whenever I thought of my wish, all I could see were those obstacles standing in my way. And in the end it never did manifest for me.

So it's like...even with something relatively big like a house., I wasn't attached to it. Sure, I wanted it a lot, but I didn't feel my whole happiness depended on having it. On the other hand, I felt that my whole life depended on being with that one particular guy, and I was consumed by the realization that he was still not with me.

There is a book on loa by Richard Dotts ("Mastering the Manifestation Paradox") where he talks about mentally putting yourself in the "sweet spot" between wanting something too much (which will prevent manifestation) and not wanting something enough (which will usually not allow manifestion to happen either). I've got a feeling that when I manifested things successfully, I was in that sweet spot.