Cynthia wrote:

 
It seems like you're overthinking all of this unnecessarily and making things more difficult than they need to be. You can only focus on living in one end at a time, so you might as well choose the one that serves you best and takes you where you want to go and disregard the others.

Maybe looking at things this way doesn’t resonate with you, and that’s fine. But for me, this has helped me to understand things better and isn’t hindering me.