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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Trustme, very well said!
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Sam wrote:
Be honest with yourself here. You say that you have failed too many times and for that reason you are afraid to try more techniques. How long have you REALLY tried each time before you "failed?" I mean, really think about it. The people who attract their loved one back are the people who diligently, sometimes for months on end KEEP the faith, and positive attitude. To me it seems as though you try to stay positive for a while but then when you don't see any results after a short amount of time, the doubt starts to creep in, and then you think you've failed.
The things is that using the LOA does not end with your love. You're using it constantly but we often forget that because our minds can run by themselves. I would also like to point out that the techniques are NOT what will bring your love back. The techniques are used to make you feel good and stay focused on the final result. THAT is what will bring you your desire.You can visualize all day long but if you don't feel good about it, it's not going to do anything except make you feel bad.
You have to dig deep within you and find the strength to pull yourself back up and try to be happy again. Then you have to learn how to stay happy. Be patient with yourself because it's a process. The people you see here on the forum who are having successes, it's because they've put in the real work of disciplining their thoughts and focusing on being happy! But I can promise you that they "failed" dozens of times before they REALLY committed to their journey. That's what you have to do.
You have not failed and you will not fail, because it's never too late. You have unlimited opportunities to make your dreams come true. Do not beat yourself up for falling into negatives moods, it happens to all of us. Instead try to look on the bright side and appreciate your bad moods, because they're a signal to you. That's your TRUE SELF letting you know that you're going the wrong way! Think of it as a gentle reminder to reach for more positive thoughts.
You can absolutely do this!
Sam, you're nailing this! You're emitting a lot of positive waves!!
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Hisoneandonly I am just getting the hang of this we are here to get our loves back because something went wrong wrong feeling wrong thinking negativity so now we are all learning together in love to shake off negativity and bring the good back you do the exercises to feel joyful which will signal to the universe that you want joyful my story is as sucky as Cherished I have suffered overwhelming depression and dispair for more than three years then quite be accident I learned about LOA very receantly and found this forum it takes time to shake off all that garbage thought permanently but when we do it will be a beautiful thing Blessedck and Sam wonderful words time means nothing to the Universe just to us I begin each day as a new day to grow and continue in my quest to get my life back and in a perfect way
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Be honest with yourself here. You say that you have failed too many times and for that reason you are afraid to try more techniques. How long have you REALLY tried each time before you "failed?" I mean, really think about it. The people who attract their loved one back are the people who diligently, sometimes for months on end KEEP the faith, and positive attitude. To me it seems as though you try to stay positive for a while but then when you don't see any results after a short amount of time, the doubt starts to creep in, and then you think you've failed.
The things is that using the LOA does not end with your love. You're using it constantly but we often forget that because our minds can run by themselves. I would also like to point out that the techniques are NOT what will bring your love back. The techniques are used to make you feel good and stay focused on the final result. THAT is what will bring you your desire.You can visualize all day long but if you don't feel good about it, it's not going to do anything except make you feel bad.
You have to dig deep within you and find the strength to pull yourself back up and try to be happy again. Then you have to learn how to stay happy. Be patient with yourself because it's a process. The people you see here on the forum who are having successes, it's because they've put in the real work of disciplining their thoughts and focusing on being happy! But I can promise you that they "failed" dozens of times before they REALLY committed to their journey. That's what you have to do.
You have not failed and you will not fail, because it's never too late. You have unlimited opportunities to make your dreams come true. Do not beat yourself up for falling into negatives moods, it happens to all of us. Instead try to look on the bright side and appreciate your bad moods, because they're a signal to you. That's your TRUE SELF letting you know that you're going the wrong way! Think of it as a gentle reminder to reach for more positive thoughts.
You can absolutely do this!
Wow!!! Go Sam!!!!!
- Hisoneandonly
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
I think you need to focus on yourself a lot more. You are too concerned with what he is doing and worrying about if he loves you or not. You should be more concerned with what YOU are doing and if you love YOURSELF. Sounds backwards but if you love yourself, he will love you as well. He will come back to you when you decide you love yourself more than you love him.
So I would suggest you write down a list of everything that you like to do. Then write down a list of things you want to do but you've never done before. And then go do everything on those lists lol Have fun! This is supposed to be fun! He's coming back to you and that's awesome! You should be happy about it! You should be celebrating! Throw a party! lol You don't need him to be happy and to have fun. You can do that all on your own!
The key to getting what you desire is about how you FEEL. So if whatever you visualize is making you feel happy, then it is good! Don't worry about whether you are doing it right or not. That's where trust and faith come in. TRUST that you are doing the right thing and that only good things come to you.
Hi trustme, thanks for your advice. I understand what all you've said, I do love myself. I booked time to do nails, shopping, massage ,hang out a lot with friends as I really love hanging out with friends. But what I'm concerning is, they all said that we need to "act as if" to attract someone back and the point is, if we're together I don't hang out much with my friends and I have to get back home at 9pm. I did tried to have my own time and not thinking about him like "letting go", and once I "let go", the feeling of fear just pops up.A lot of people misunderstand the phrase "let go". You're supposed to let go of your FEAR not your desire. So you're not letting go at all. You are clinging onto that fear tightly. Relax because fear is holding you back. To act "as if" means to act as if you were in the PERFECT relationship. If you were with him in the perfect relationship then you would not feel scared. You have to pretend you already have what you want. You dont want the old relationship back. The old relationship didn't work. As long as you fall back into the old patterns, you'll get the same old thing. You want a NEW and BETTER relationship with him. So getting your nails done and hanging out with your friends IS acting "as if" but you can't go home after spending time with them and get scared. Pretend you are with him. You should not be afraid. Let go of your fear.
Thankyou trustme, you've made a perfect a clear point for me 
I've understand it now. So I should just focus on our perfect relationship and ignore all the fears and doubts? I just need an unwavering faith. 😁💪
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Thread Starter- Hisoneandonly
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Be honest with yourself here. You say that you have failed too many times and for that reason you are afraid to try more techniques. How long have you REALLY tried each time before you "failed?" I mean, really think about it. The people who attract their loved one back are the people who diligently, sometimes for months on end KEEP the faith, and positive attitude. To me it seems as though you try to stay positive for a while but then when you don't see any results after a short amount of time, the doubt starts to creep in, and then you think you've failed.
The things is that using the LOA does not end with your love. You're using it constantly but we often forget that because our minds can run by themselves. I would also like to point out that the techniques are NOT what will bring your love back. The techniques are used to make you feel good and stay focused on the final result. THAT is what will bring you your desire.You can visualize all day long but if you don't feel good about it, it's not going to do anything except make you feel bad.
You have to dig deep within you and find the strength to pull yourself back up and try to be happy again. Then you have to learn how to stay happy. Be patient with yourself because it's a process. The people you see here on the forum who are having successes, it's because they've put in the real work of disciplining their thoughts and focusing on being happy! But I can promise you that they "failed" dozens of times before they REALLY committed to their journey. That's what you have to do.
You have not failed and you will not fail, because it's never too late. You have unlimited opportunities to make your dreams come true. Do not beat yourself up for falling into negatives moods, it happens to all of us. Instead try to look on the bright side and appreciate your bad moods, because they're a signal to you. That's your TRUE SELF letting you know that you're going the wrong way! Think of it as a gentle reminder to reach for more positive thoughts.
You can absolutely do this!
Omigosh Sam thankyou so much! Your words hits me hard right to my head.
Well, I understand that I've doubts with myself and I am afraid of my own thoughts. Sometimes, a negative thought just suddenly pops up. But I don't put too much focus on it, I admit I freaked out at the very first moment, then I quickly find another good thoughts to replace it, I hopes that universe don't send me the result of the negative thoughts that suddenly pops up 
and yea, I guess what I'm really failed at is that I don't have a disciplined mind yet and not enough patient with waiting for the results to come. I'm trying to train my mind these 3 days. Good news is, I did successfully turn my negative emotion quickly to positive emotion 
I maintained it for 3 days!! Yay!
Sometimes, I would see him posting stuff hinting with another girl or whatsoever. I did sad for a while (not long maybe 5 to 10 minutes) then I would tell myself, it's just my past attraction, I'm recreating a new ones now and I would see the positive results very soon in the future. Am I doing right? (stoned)
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Hisoneandonly I am just getting the hang of this we are here to get our loves back because something went wrong wrong feeling wrong thinking negativity so now we are all learning together in love to shake off negativity and bring the good back you do the exercises to feel joyful which will signal to the universe that you want joyful my story is as sucky as Cherished I have suffered overwhelming depression and dispair for more than three years then quite be accident I learned about LOA very receantly and found this forum it takes time to shake off all that garbage thought permanently but when we do it will be a beautiful thing Blessedck and Sam wonderful words time means nothing to the Universe just to us I begin each day as a new day to grow and continue in my quest to get my life back and in a perfect way
Awww barbie. Hugs ♡ we sure can do this alright! We're here for each other we sure can have our desire (love)
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
I also feel if your friends don't support your desire to have him back then don't tlak abt him with them , u don't need nay sayers .. it can get confusing keep your wish deep in your heart .. I wldnt discuss it with anyone that didn't support what u want
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Sometimes, I would see him posting stuff hinting with another girl or whatsoever. I did sad for a while (not long maybe 5 to 10 minutes) then I would tell myself, it's just my past attraction, I'm recreating a new ones now and I would see the positive results very soon in the future. Am I doing right? (stoned)
You know No Contact includes not following him on Social Media. If you keep seeing him in the current version it would take you longer to attract him in the version you want.
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Re: Sorry to bring a little negative in, but i needed a lil help :(
Sometimes, I would see him posting stuff hinting with another girl or whatsoever. I did sad for a while (not long maybe 5 to 10 minutes) then I would tell myself, it's just my past attraction, I'm recreating a new ones now and I would see the positive results very soon in the future. Am I doing right? (stoned)
You know No Contact includes not following him on Social Media. If you keep seeing him in the current version it would take you longer to attract him in the version you want.
Lovinglight is absolutely correct.
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