Selfloveiskey wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Selfloveiskey wrote:

Yeah but if it was both how do manifest someone back into your life that doesn't want you?

 In my case, I can see where he did something, I reacted, and it went back and forth like that, which is why I said it's mutual.

I think that you said a few months ago that your person had come back and told you he loved you, so if that was true,  how can he go from that to not wanting you in such a short period of time? How can you be certain that is now the case? Do you really think that's true? I know from my personal experience that people say and do things all the time that they don't really mean for reasons that possibly only they know. It could be a funny mood they are in, a phase they're going through, because they're upset or angry at the time, and not necessarily at you, or some more serious issues they have on their mind that really have nothing to do with you, or even playing games. My person has got some major issues and many worries and troubles that he's got to sort out, not to mention a load of baggage from his past that he's dumped onto me.  None of that has anything to do with what feelings he has for me. I've finally learnt not to take it personally, even though it is very hurtful. You can never know for sure what is going on in somebody else's mind, and if you take things at face value you can get the wrong end of the stick. I agree with Veronica when she says if you have a strong desire it's not there to mock you, it's because it is attainable and you're meant to have it. If everybody in the world wanted the same person, there would only be one couple in the whole world, and how silly would that be? If you really want this person as badly as you seem to, it's not because some higher power outside you wants to laugh in your face and tell you you can't have him.
What I meant the other day was self love is important for your own wellbeing, but it is not the only thing if you want to attain something specific. There is a lecture by Neville Goddard that is in written form on the internet called Brazen Impudence which I find very encouraging and helpful. There is a lot of religious stuff at the beginning, but when you get past that, he talks all about how he got out of his first marriage to marry his second wife, which in those days was a lot more difficult than now. What he means by brazen impudence is not taking no for an answer and persisting until you get what you want. His method was very simple. He didn't do all kinds of techniques and things. He simply imagined having things the way he wanted them as if he had them already and what that would be like and fell asleep afterwards. He'd been turned down for an honourable discharge from the army, so he imagined being at home, honourably discharged, and he was on his way home, honourably discharged, about 8 days later. He married his second wife that way. He got everything he wanted that way. Dr Joseph Murphy said, 'Infer no opponent' to your desires. People set up blocks in their minds about how they can't have something, usually something they really want. Patience is very important, and letting things happen at their own pace. People nowadays want everything right now, and they can be on their way toward attaining their desire but get impatient if it's not happening fast enough for their liking and that's when they can start to try to force things and then they get frustrated and feel all sorts of negative feelings and end up telling their sob stories about how bad their situation has become and how desperate they are on forums like this, whereas if they would have been more patient and given it whatever time it took they would have either achieved their desire or been well on the way to that.

He even said in November he couldn't love anyone else as much as he loved me. So I would like this back. I want to not rely on him though I want to be my own person too. Thanks

 
That wasn't very long ago. You had it once, you can get it back. You can be your own person and have him too. They're not mutually exclusive.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Back to the subliminals - I'd never trust one. How do we ever know what messages they're saying? It could be I'm a unicorn" over and over for all I know! It's a bugbear of mine.

 
That's possible, but not very likely. I've only had positive results from subliminals, and I've used more than the one I've mentioned here.

Selfloveiskey wrote:

I just want to know I can manifest what I  want and I just want to feel better

 
Why don't you try choosing something you consider small or unimportant, nothing to do with a specific person, think of it as being already accomplished or like you already have it, and feel neutral about it, like you're doing a scientific experiment just to see what happens. I've had some of my most successful results when I've done this, although they weren't small, unimportant things.  Imagining it and being completely neutral about it, feeling no emotions of any kind whatsoever, I found very effective. Then, when you have a small success it should give you more confidence to have more and bigger successes.