The OP asked "anyone know what this is" and I gave my thoughts on the answer and why people may behave like that.

That doesn't mean that the guy she is talking about is doing this, but it is worth consideration in order to get a clear picture. We aren't in a fairytale, as someone further up the thread alluded to. We are, LOA or not, in the real world. (Actually LOA is only one of MANY universal laws - but the only one that seems to be talked about so people can get "stuff" - and I think they should all be looked at in conjunction with each other).

We can only use laws like this when we know what the situation is. So, for instance, if the guy is "breadcrumbing", Dan, then he IS. He may NOT be, however. Only when we know the reality of what is happening now can we work with it. For example if it were me, I would be clear with the person. If they knew I wanted a proper relationship with them and were "breadcrumbing" I would be honest with them and say I deserve more than being kept on the back burner, and if that is what you are doing, leave me alone until you are prepared to come forward with something substantial. Otherwise they are wasting my time.

But I don't know everything about this story so I cannot say what the OP should do. In fact nobody can.

I am not being negative. I am being realistic and looking at ways to work with what is happening. Unfortunately not everyone agrees with each other all the time.
 

I think that creating positive change requires you to follow through in a lot of ways.  LOA thinking isn't just positivity, but it's more about feeling in control even when things seem out of control.  It's about being mindful of thoughts and feelings, and being optimistic that things can get better.  Being a dreamer can be a good thing All of the great inventions in this world have come from "dreamers".  The key is to feel your dream as possible, instead of feeling it outside of yourself.  Thinking "from" it, instead of "of" it.

Dan2015 wrote:

One thing that confuses me is. Why people believe in loa but tend to think of things in a non loa way most of the time

I mean. I’m not saying don’t use common sense or don’t think practical. But with loa you’re suppose to be more of a “dreamer” or more fairy tale based


With loa you’re suppose to think of things more on a positive side(especially if you’re still happy even without the specific person, I mean why not? What do you have to lose)

For you. Of course non loa and practical thinking would be. “He’s manipulating me to keep me around”. But if you believe that, what’s the sense of believing in loa? Where basically anything can happen if you’re in alignment?

A more loa way. Would be to look at it on a positive side and know you’ll get things you want


Ugh. Times like this is when I wish people like Cherished,Sam,etc still came on here

Feeling good inside is really the ideal goal.  The key is to commit to that good feeling, regardless of what is happening around you.  Thus, you allow yourself to feel in a way that is best for *you* and not as a result of what you currently have/don't have.  This is the key to letting go and not "needing" the result.  This is the very way you attract the result to you, because you are no longer focused on it.  And... you are putting yourself and your happiness first and not allowing it to be dependent on a certain result.

dannyslife wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

The OP asked "anyone know what this is" and I gave my thoughts on the answer and why people may behave like that.

That doesn't mean that the guy she is talking about is doing this, but it is worth consideration in order to get a clear picture. We aren't in a fairytale, as someone further up the thread alluded to. We are, LOA or not, in the real world. (Actually LOA is only one of MANY universal laws - but the only one that seems to be talked about so people can get "stuff" - and I think they should all be looked at in conjunction with each other).

We can only use laws like this when we know what the situation is. So, for instance, if the guy is "breadcrumbing", Dan, then he IS. He may NOT be, however. Only when we know the reality of what is happening now can we work with it. For example if it were me, I would be clear with the person. If they knew I wanted a proper relationship with them and were "breadcrumbing" I would be honest with them and say I deserve more than being kept on the back burner, and if that is what you are doing, leave me alone until you are prepared to come forward with something substantial. Otherwise they are wasting my time.

But I don't know everything about this story so I cannot say what the OP should do. In fact nobody can.

I am not being negative. I am being realistic and looking at ways to work with what is happening. Unfortunately not everyone agrees with each other all the time.
 

I do agree with you, although the whole point of loa is, as veronica suggested, to feel in control of things without the need to control things. The more time I spend in loving myself and feeling happy unconditionally the more I couldn't care less about the actions of my ex. I think that's really the ultimate goal of this journey, to become happy and drop the neediness. Getting him/her back is merely a consequence of finding your own happiness and feeling whole and complete regardless of anyone else. I'm not saying you should indulge everything your lover throws at you but at least I'm suggesting to focus on the positive aspect of things, a caring contact is still a good point to start at, Focus on the positive aspect of it and keep living your life fully. Things can only unfold the best possible way once you let them do their course.

Dan2015 wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

The OP asked "anyone know what this is" and I gave my thoughts on the answer and why people may behave like that.

That doesn't mean that the guy she is talking about is doing this, but it is worth consideration in order to get a clear picture. We aren't in a fairytale, as someone further up the thread alluded to. We are, LOA or not, in the real world. (Actually LOA is only one of MANY universal laws - but the only one that seems to be talked about so people can get "stuff" - and I think they should all be looked at in conjunction with each other).

We can only use laws like this when we know what the situation is. So, for instance, if the guy is "breadcrumbing", Dan, then he IS. He may NOT be, however. Only when we know the reality of what is happening now can we work with it. For example if it were me, I would be clear with the person. If they knew I wanted a proper relationship with them and were "breadcrumbing" I would be honest with them and say I deserve more than being kept on the back burner, and if that is what you are doing, leave me alone until you are prepared to come forward with something substantial. Otherwise they are wasting my time.

But I don't know everything about this story so I cannot say what the OP should do. In fact nobody can.

I am not being negative. I am being realistic and looking at ways to work with what is happening. Unfortunately not everyone agrees with each other all the time.
 

Oh I wasn’t directing it at you, just something I see all over the forum

It is important to know we are in the real world and be realistic, I do agree

I’m not sure how to explain this.  But depending on the person and if they are feeling low or high.   If you’re feeling high and in alignment, and don’t “need” your desire.   I feel like you’re playing with house money.   If you’re already in alignment(not talking about op but in general).    I feel like you can be more in a fairy tale world, because you’re hapoy regardless

I just remember how Cherished was when she was on here, of course she had her low moments and I’m sure things didn’t always go to plan, but from what I remember, she did act like everything was a fairy tale(but she was usually in alignment, so she had more leeway).  Like she literally seemed like she manifested everything even so called unrealistic things.   And she felt she had full control of her life


Of course when you’re unsure of things, you can’t 100 percent go into that mindset, because it doesn’t feel real to you


It does feel good having control over your life.   Of course being realistic is important, but it’s also, at least in my opinion important to dream and start expecting the unexpected

Agreed

Last edited by Selfloveiskey (9/27/2017 12:10 pm)

It's definitely progress! I also think this 'almost manifestation' is the universe's way of telling you there are a few more things you have to clear up ('energetically' or physically) before your desire can fully manifest. It's like it's rewarding you for all of your great work so far, but telling you to keep going at the same time.