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FROM PLOA FORUM BY I LOVE RAINBOW
Dear Friends,
I've been having some thoughts and insights about using the law of attraction, conciously, in relationships. I would like to share them here and invite additional contribution.
One of the things I have seen asked - and I have asked myself - when using LOA in relationships is 'how is it possible to MAKE someone else feel a certain way?'. We ask this when we're using LOA to attract romantic relationship, better friendship or harmony with our family or at work. After all, we're told that a fundamental of LOA is that 'I can only create in MY reality', right? We're told that we are only responsible for ourself - not anyone else. And someone else can create whatever THEY want.
Many people, myself included, have then asked - if this is the case, how can I influence someone to treat me differently, how can I get an ex who is adamant that 'it's over' to come back to me, how can I have my Mum / Dad / boss treat me more nicely?
From watching LOA videos, reading and using my intuition I now have an answer that is much closer into the vortex and the truth. This is how: everyone has every possibility in them. Read that again. Each person is a multitude of possibilities, only a small fraction of which are expressed at any one time. By this, I'm talking about vibrational possibilities. Remember, we are fundamentally vibrational beings - so we can vibrate at many, many different frequencies. I can vibrate at the frequency of love, in the vortex, using LOA effortlessley. I can vibrate at the frequency of hope, verging on belief. I can vibrate at frustration. I can vibrate at wealth...poverty...hatred...depression...emptiness...excitement...creativity - and so on. We - each one of us - is full of an entire range of vibrational frequencies. When we begin conciously using LOA, we are choosing our frequency.
Now, when we use LOA with other people - we are not (as I used to think) 'making' them do or think or feel anything. What we are doing - is activating a dormant vibration within them. Think of it this way - each person contains a million, billion vibrational seeds. You pick the one you want, and water it with your constant attention to it. That is the seed which grows. There is a big difference between thinking this way - I am just activating something within them that's already there - to thinking 'I have to MAKE them love me' or 'I have to MAKE them want to come back to me'.
When we realise that what we want is already in that other person, the process of attracting becomes much, much easier. Because we KNOW that possibility already exists, in potentia. And KNOWING is right up the top of the vibrational scale - higher than HOPE. We can HOPE that the person loves us (for example). Or we can KNOW that they ALREADY love us, respect us, treat us well - and that this just needs to be activated.
There's something more, too. You know however 'they' are acting at the moment? Whether it's your ex who cut off all contact, your flatmate who is always stealing your toast or your boss who is just mean? This part is important. How they are acting now was once just a seed and 'this' current reality is no more important and certainly no more powerful than the 'seed' reality you are going to help to grow.
Read that again.
Current 'reality' is no more powerful than the seed reality.
ALL CURRENT REALITY SHOWS YOU IS WHERE YOUR VIBRATIONAL FREQUENCY *WAS*.
I say 'was', because, as The Secret says - one of my favourite quotes: 'That's not who you ARE - that's who you...WERE!'. So wherever, however someone is treating you is just showing you which vibrational seed you have activated within them, and it will always correlate with your PAST vibrational reality.
And as soon as you change your focus, and shift your vibrational reality...BOOM! You'll activate a new seed! So the most powerful potential within a person is not the currently activated one. It's the one you choose to give your attention to NOW. Most people don't realise this, so they just keep giving their attention to the currently activated seed, thinking 'that's all there is', 'that's who THEY are' or 'that's just how they behave'. And so that seed stays active. For a seed to stay active, it NEEDS attention. Give your attention to a different seed - and a different reality will BLOOM!
Tips for giving attention to another seed may come in another post.
Thank you for reading
Love and happiness in the vortex,
iloverainbows xxx
Last edited by Shy (11/26/2015 6:19 am)
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What a brilliant observation! I'd never thought of it that way, but I think this has to be true.
I guess that what we need to do is to give "water and light" (in other words, our mental energy) to the seed that we want to cultivate, to nurture it and give it our full, loving attention so that it grows big and strong. And then we need to totally ignore andย neglect theย seed that we don't want so thatย it never has a chance to grow at all.
I'm going to keep this in mind from now on!
Last edited by Debbie (11/26/2015 6:52 am)
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Abraham use this analogy, and they say "stop digging up the seed and checking on it! You're ruining it's progress when you insist on checking all the time!" ๐
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Fantastic post!!!
Me likey
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I loved this Shy! Thank you so much for sharing! Please do share the other article about how to give attention to another seed. Everything in this post made sense. Thank you!
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Sure Blessdck, I will find the next post. Basically, she's saying just keep your focus on love..such as whenever you think about your partner, just think with love or if that's not possible for you then just remind happy moments those you spent with your partner.
Today, when for a moment I was low, I reminded about this post,I had forgotten completely and I searched for it. I remember when for a first time I read this post, I would keep my focus only on his loving part and when I attracted once, he accepted to me that he had been thinking all those moments he spent with me. (I would only think about our happy moments and he was thinking the same).
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Shy wrote:
Sure Blessdck, I will find the next post. Basically, she's saying just keep your focus on love..such as whenever you think about your partner, just think with love or if that's not possible for you then just remind happy moments those you spent with your partner.
Today, when for a moment I was low, I reminded about this post,I had forgotten completely and I searched for it. I remember when for a first time I read this post, I would keep my focus only on his loving part and when I attracted once, he accepted to me that he had been thinking all those moments he spent with me. (I would only think about our happy moments and he was thinking the same).
Thanks so much Shy! Yes, we should only be thinking of the happy moments!! I like that!
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Shy this is amazing. So glad you shared this with everyone. Thank you.
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Also, she has lots of posts you can find, these will be helpful for those who are not in alignment.
By....I love rainbow
I just got another insight, related to this topic. It really excited me and I felt I wanted to share. It sounds simple and obvious though, but hopefully it gives an 'aha!' relief moment to some people
So, here goes. When you align with your perfect relationship, you line up with the vibration aspect of your lover who is in alignment with your relationship - right? So, your lover has many many aspects, and it's up to you to become a vibrational match to the aspect of them who is in a relationship with you.
My insight was this: in lining up with this aspect of your lover and of your relationship, we ALSO AUTOMATICALLY line up with the co-operative vibrational aspects of everyone else in the reality which is supportive of that relationship!
Think of it like this: your perfect relationship already exists, you just have to become a vibrational match to it. Now, it could not exist in a universe where it was not supported by the people it needed to be supported by - could it? So there already exists, not only your perfect relationship - but whole entire universe in which it actually exists!
I felt this might be supportive for some of our friends on here who's partner has been arranged into a marriage. So, there already exists a reality where you are together, and everyone involved - their parents, your parents and so on - are already supportive of that. But you don't need to try and control all the components of this reality - you don't need to attract them AND soothe their parents AND convince your parents. You just need to get into the feeling place of the relationship and watch everyone 'come around' ;)
This really, really, really helped me! Knowing that I don't need to know HOW, I just know IT IS Thank you for reading.
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OK, well this might blow your head apart...but let's try it. It blew my head apart
Basically, everything you want ALREADY EXISTS. Not as a possibility, but as an ACTUAL reality, running parallell to this one. Everything that ever could have been created, already has been created. So when we think we're creating, we're actually shifting from a reality which does not have what we want in it (the relationship, the body, the money...etc)...to one that DOES. There are infinite number of parallell realities. So when you think you're 'imagining' the relationship you want, you're actually seeing a possibility which actually EXISTS. Therefore, you don't have to MAKE anyone treat you any differently - you just shift to a reality where they already ARE treating you differently. And the way you shift, is by assuming what you want already exists, now! This will put you on the same vibrational frequency as the reality you choose.
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Thanks Shy! I like this too!
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