Congratulations on the 2nd masters degree


I think this forum needs another moderator.   Sadly, I think cherished got busy or driven away by the negativity

Hi Veronica,

Having done my masters myself, I do understand how busy it can get so kudos to you!

So overall, this is a very sensitive topic. A lot of people are so desperate to get their exes back and they'll do anything and everything for that. While I don't disagree with you that it is possible, my concern is that there are people battling with mental illness and others who are in abusive situations. By saying things like anything is possible and you create your own reality, I feel we are enabling them and giving them false hope. They'd rather focus on techniques to change their external situation rather than working on themselves. A good therapist would not give them false hope and help them get themselves back. While I know your heart is in the right place Veronica, you and I can agree that it isn't healthy to use things like RS when you're in the wrong place. I think you need to explain your views in a way that is healthy and doesn't give false hope.

People here think that because you are an expert who does YouTube videos and charges for coaching, that your word or Agnes' word would go above that of us users. It's fair because human nature is that of you pay someone for advice, their advice is of higher value. However, some users really need help beyond that of getting their ex back. I think you do need to address that.

As well, I agree with Dan that ther needs to be moderation here.

Last edited by mugginess (8/10/2017 4:56 pm)

mugginess wrote:

Hi Veronica,

Having done my masters myself, I do understand how busy it can get so kudos to you!

So overall, this is a very sensitive topic. A lot of people are so desperate to get their exes back and they'll do anything and everything for that. While I don't disagree with you that it is possible, my concern is that there are people battling with mental illness and others who are in abusive situations. By saying things like anything is possible and you create your own reality, I feel we are enabling them and giving them false hope. They'd rather focus on techniques to change their external situation rather than working on themselves. A good therapist would not give them false hope and help them get themselves back. While I know your heart is in the right place Veronica, you and I can agree that it isn't healthy to use things like RS when you're in the wrong place. I think you need to explain your views in a way that is healthy and doesn't give false hope.

As well, I agree with Dan that ther needs to be moderation here.

100% with you on this. While I'm a believer of  "everyone is you pushed out" I also believe that if you're in a negative situation you need to get far away from it. 
 

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I also feel that if some of these people were to get their exes back, it would be a disaster because they aren't in the right place, the ex is not a good catch and there were problems that were not being acknowledged, and that the primary focus of good use of the law of attraction is to be the best version of you, not attract back someone who was not good for you in the first place. I'm not being negative or saying it can't happen but a lot of people want to put the cart before the horse. 

 

That's the thing...  I feel like people really should work on ourselves first, to the point where we just want the person(if we still even do)  but I feel like a lot of people here feel like they NEED the ex/specific person 

 

I think a lot of it is there is a lack of clarification so people are running around not understanding how LOA works. Veronica mostly works on ex-back, just as Lanie and Agnes do. There's so much more to LOA than a relationship so people don't understand why they need to be in a place of self-love. Honestly, I read Lanies books and watched a lot of Veronica's YouTubes before I ever cracked open an LOA book. I couldn't understand why all these challenges included taking time for myself or indulging in myself. It is understated, but the most crucial part of LOA.

I agree with mental health issues being a big issue here. I question if some people have mild depression or full blown psychosis some days. Sometimes I read things that make me "WOW" aloud. Nothing insulting or nasty, but more "is this poster mentally sound or should they have a psychiatrist monitoring them?".  Very rare, but that's a big scare for me, personally.